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Jan 15, 2022 10:59 PM
Multipass
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da1stjster
If I get married I'll take their last name. I've been told I'm the last male of my line and I'd love to burn it all to the ground
Rhythmaster
It's great, my grandad changed his last name when moving here, dad changed last name AGAIN for numerology belief. The line has already ended
fivefrozenfishfingers
My bloodline ends with me too!
InHarajuku
Last of my family’s name too and don’t want to marry anyone, so I changed it myself
WeylandYutaniCorp
Hell. Yeah. Screw the family pressure. Traditions are for the weak. Odin won't be looking my name up in a book. He'll know me by my scars.
walkingbread88
Haha last male of the line here as well, jokes on them, I may be sterile.
bustercuster
I did this. It feels better than you think it will.
LocksleyGrey
I'm the last of my family and I changed the name anyway.
feryooday
I have male relatives of the family name. and I don’t plan to reproduce anyways. I still think it’d be awesome if my partner took mine tho
feryooday
since I’m proud of my heritage. but I assume they might be as well. we’ll see!
BiologicallyHazardousMaterial
Trans and getting married in a few years, gonna EXTRA burn it all! Muahahha!
habibiyousaid
Is it a unique surname? Cos y'know, there are other smiths out there..
bourbonandbaddecisions
My last name is very unique. In CA there are four of us.
da1stjster
eh? not like the most common but I know of others. I'm not going to be bringing down all of it but my particular branch perhaps
DonutThief
Buddy of mine took her name because his last name was Haynal. I'd do the same
DonutThief
Change my name, not anal.
HillOfBeans
HAYNAL YOU’RE A ROCKSTAR
BubblesTheFish
Get your Gaymon!
IusallypoopwhileImonhere
I get that. I’m the last of my line and of my family. No one else has my name that I know.
GerberLegalTeam
No, I can't imagine poopwhileImonhere is a very common name.
HillOfBeans
It is, however, a very common occurrence on Imgur.
IusallypoopwhileImonhere
Lol I would say it but it’s so rare it would expose me. No one on else on earth has my full name.
GerberLegalTeam
That sounds pretty badass, like you're a vampire or something with some obscure Czech name from the 1200's.
Makerofthingsmasherofstuff
I understand that in the deep south this is not a problem because they already share last names
PotatoesGonaPotate
thinkybrainpains
TI99Kitty
You mean like one of those "Ya cousin is also ya daddy. And ya nephew. (spit)"
gracefalls
OneOfTheEnemiesWithin
ilovedavidbowie
Family tree is a straight line.
TacoThePerson
My wife kept her last name for her career and she makes way more than me. I dont give a fuck anyway.
imakeeper
My wife didn't take mine. She likes hers, and I don't have strong feelings on it.
DontNeedAWeatherManToKnowWhichWayTheWindBlows
Same here. Plus my wife is in academia and had already published a lot under her name.
thespaceneedle
Insert Dave Chappelle “cause fuck ‘em, that’s why “ right here.
Inanist
We can't, you're sitting here. If you could just scooch over...
KaijuMittons
That's my reasoning. And I don't want to do the paperwork
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GooteMoo
Begone, bot
TheSpectrumRabbit
They don’t need a reason.
Emarald2
Ten years of degrees in my maiden name
rdmage11
Paperwork is a pain the ass too, plus changing drivers license and all that.
InkyBlinkyPinkyAndClyde
And at most employers, your last name is part of your email. So you have to change your work email too. Fuck that noise. Plus making sure /1
InkyBlinkyPinkyAndClyde
that people who you only communicate with a few times a year know that your name changed and it's not a new person in the position. Such /2
InkyBlinkyPinkyAndClyde
a mess. I've been working in the same product team for 20 years and some customers I only talk to every 3 or 4 years, even. I can't /3
InkyBlinkyPinkyAndClyde
imagine changing my name and having to explain it for years later. /4
genericanamoly
My sister and brother-in-law both have the last name “smith” so they didn’t have to change anything.
sfrinlan
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Cheomesh
My wife and I have been married six years and she still hasn't filed to update it.
ouroborus777
Sure, but first tell me the reasoning behind men who won't take their wive's last name
Shitheid
My husband has no connection with his dad's side of the family. His name is the last thing he has to remember dad (who died years ago)
sfrinlan
That's not how patriarchy works!
xmaneds
bEcAuSe we'Ve aLwAys d0Ne it tHis wAy ! ! ! /s
WombatJones
She wouldnt let me. Wanted mine.
Qualtagh
trade!
CrazyCatLad
I proposed this July. We're not married yet but we have a house and a kid. Whenever we do marry, I have no intention of asking her to take>>
CrazyCatLad
>> my name. She's had her last name for 46 years so I wouldn't want to take it away. That said, I don't want to take her last name either.
ticktockbent
I'd really like to hear the reasoning behind why women should take men's names.
zanli
Well, Pasumer, I'd really like to hear the reasons why women SHOULD take their husbands' names.
stuart1965
Here’s to people who confuse tradition with reasons.
Xecryo
Dude if you have the chance to get out of being a McBooger you take it and don't ask questions.
Animorphs
Because why the fuck should she? It’s supposed to be a partnership so why would one be required to take the others name?
iamspartan1262
I want to hyphenate, then I want my kids to hyphenate their names so that they create a horrendously long chain of names
TheMeanGombeen
Isn't that what the Spanish people do.
InkyBlinkyPinkyAndClyde
Most cultures who do that only go one generation with it and then they start dropping the female-side names. So you'd be born with your /1
InkyBlinkyPinkyAndClyde
mom's and dad's last names, but in reality it would just be your two grandfather's last names, and your two grandmother's get dropped. /2
InkyBlinkyPinkyAndClyde
Like you would be Firstname MomLast DadLast. Then your kid would be Kidname DadLast SpousesDadLast if you're the mom, or /3
InkyBlinkyPinkyAndClyde
Kidname SpousesDadLast DadLast if you're the dad. The male names go at the end and are the ones that continue down the line. It's no /4
dipidy
My wife's last name is Worthington. That's just such a cool last name.
kaoticgirl
I don't really like my SO's last name and I do really like mine. So if I ever do decide to marry him, he can use mine if he likes.
Undrave
What's the reasoning for taking the man's name in the first place?? That's the weird one to me.
NoodlesWthADHD
My sister didn't take her husband's last name because she has a lot of papers published under her maiden name. Also, it's a pain in the ass
NoodlesWthADHD
He really doesn't care
PoppaBigBear
I'm a guy and I don't like my last name, biological father is a bastard. I'd rather take her name
excitedSatan
Why not flip a coin to pick which last name is kept? Oh I forgot, women were property until recently...
Cheomesh
My wife and I considered hybridizing our last names when we got married but figured it was too much paperwork. She took mine though.
melaniemeep
I added my husbands surname and he added mine, and ours already had both, so now we're all double barrelled and have the sane surname
shyasen
IIRC, originally taking the man's last name was to show others who basically owned her, much like slave owners did with slaves.
astrangehop
Uhhh
license2kilt
Because she chooses not to. End of debate.
SirJamesMonster42
I'd really like to hear the reasoning behind men who feel threatened by this. I'm assuming it's bc they have small weewees.
hashtagyoureit
I feel like a woman may have originally posted. It’s mostly women that I see who care about this stuff.
Wozzup
Lol because they... have to change their names which is super weird? The people affected by bullshit usually talk about it the most.
hashtagyoureit
Yup
Mechanic907
I am a man. It bothers me because it's a stupid tradition.
stickywiggit
I was told "because it brings a family together" and when I asked why it was always the woman I got "because that's how it's done"
kikimo04
My husband did not mind at all, he has a big weewee (it's why he is my husband) so this checks out.
TheRealJoeHasenguy
We're to lazy to change it officially
betamaxforever
That can't be all. I have a small weewee and I don't give a shit about someone taking my last name.
atoyot
I'm a man who is not threatened by this and I have a small weewee. Having a small weewee is no excuse.
Manhoarder
As a man with a small weenie. I'm not threatened by the idea of straight men taking their spouse's last name. But then again I'm gay lmfao
BreadMachineCookieDough
I'm a man. My wife and I both kept our last names after marriage.
bynming
My wife has a wonderful family, I'm glad she kept her name.
FancyPartyGirl
One I know when "cuz my family as a rich history.." he had like 3 generations of irish American vs the woman who had 400 years
hashbaz
Technically everyone has thousands of years of family history. Captain obvious, away!
FancyPartyGirl
By that argument everyone has the same history and everyone is family...
ecastaneda77711
Averaged wee wee man here! I respect my wifes decision to keep her last night even tho
ecastaneda77711
I woud prefer for her to have ours so the kids can feel united in one name. She recently has decided to change it to mine :)
Isorikk
It's not so much that I would feel threatened as having to explain it to everyone I know when they inevitably ask because it's unusual
Mechanic907
That us the annoying part. Being asked why or told you're not actually married and having to show a marriage certificate.
Dalael
I'm a man with a small weewee... i have no opinion about the name change.
SirJamesMonster42
I applaud your willingness to speak about such an important topic.
Dalael
I consider my weewee to be of upmost importance.
myproudburner
LucyLovegood
No reason to bring penis size into this, we really need to detangle the concept of a man's worth by that..
LurkerOfDarkness
There actually is a reason for why it's done.
Calise425
This! Originally upvoted the comment until penis size was brought into play. Even if someone should be insulted, don't genital shame
Mechanic907
I am a man. I did not and still don't care my wife kept her last name and I kept mine.
bananastandcheddah
I choose this guy's last name
PigpenTheGreat
This guy has a giant dong
Mechanic907
It gets bigger when compared to smaller objects....
KingXizor
If i might ask, what will you guys do with the childrens should you have any? Pick one, hyphenate, a/o just let them pick?
pangevine
Kept my last name, my daughter has my husband's family name which is by default in France. No issue for me.
KingXizor
Ah, okay. Thanks for the answer!
Mechanic907
Truthfully, not sure. Never thought about that. She wants to adopt kids. We will probably keep the kids name.
KingXizor
Well alrighty then, thanks for answering!
Mechanic907
It was a good question. Thanks for asking it.
mikeatike
One of my best friends dad (well, stepdad, but hes her real dad) took her mom's name when they married. And he's a marine so vets get extra
mikeatike
confused. But they also dont wanna fuck with a marine so I'm sure he doesn't get much trouble over it.
myproudburner
I don't f with people that have a rifle, and a gun. They usually know which is for fighting, and which is for fun. But not always.
mikeatike
Oh he do.
DeathStarTechSupport
My wife was super sad about losing her very uniquely-spelled last name. I offered to have her hyphenate. "You'd let me do that??"
DeathStarTechSupport
What do I care? It's cool enough that she married me. She could have kept her maiden name, and I'd still be fine with it. She's my wife,
DeathStarTechSupport
...she's not my property. IDK why it's such a big deal to make the wife take her husband's name, 4 fox sake.
Raenon
My wife hyphenated, I feel honored that she *wanted* to take my name at all, I had no expectation of it. Hell, I considered hyphenating, too
cafmaster
My wife is my goddess not my slave. I hate this "custom". But I know its an advantage for some.
lljkstonefish
I'm all for ending it. But at the same time, what's the modern alternative? Hyphenate into infinity? Flip a coin and take his or hers?
lljkstonefish
Keeping your own names but then applying the changed name to children just kicks the can down the road, before anyone suggests that.
Nobody7713
Some just invent a wholly new name, but often those're people who want to cut ties with their family.
LucyLovegood
My friends are planning this, great relationship with their families but wanted the same last name without anyone losing out more
TiredSnowball
Marriage is not considered a good legal reason to change your last name where I am. So, basically illegal here (Quebec, Canada)
Manhoarder
Why would anyone want to marry in canada tho, common law is a thing there and also marriage proposes no benefits?
TiredSnowball
Not exactly. Common law rules vary largely from one province to another. Plus, people still like romance.
folded13
That's odd, considering that Quebec is strongly Catholic (or was), and the Catholic Church supports the tradition quite strongly.
folded13
Did I say strongly enough there? gah
TiredSnowball
Catholic religion used to have such a tight hold on QC as recently as the 60s, so now it's extra anti-religious in general.
folded13
I did not know that, thank you.
FajitaJane
They didn't take mine and I didn't take their's. We just made a new last name.
Lulabel73
Megatron?
FajitaJane
Lulabel73
Next marriage then.
repeatuntilnotsad
Is it a combo of the two or what??? So curious!
FajitaJane
Totally new. Not related to either of our original surnames.
gregthegrug
Same
DontTazeMeBrah
Papagiorgio
Vilgashem
That’s dope, actually.
KevorkianScarf
Bananahammock? Is that you??
numonster
We were to lazy to change all our stuff like bank accounts etc.
seescoes
Hey, same
maijen0062000
I wondered if that was possible
ScrapCode
I had a friend's parent/step-parent do this and for the women it was easy but the man had to do soooo much BS to get his named changed
alwaysthecheesegrater
"easy" lol. I've been married 7 years and I still have a lot of stuff in my maiden name.
Lachwen
Well, "easy" in the sense that legally all I had to do as a woman was write on the marriage license what my new last name was, and the 1/
Lachwen
government was like "Yep, that's your legal last name now." My male friend who took his wife's last name had to go through a LOT more 2/
FajitaJane
Gotta go through the courthouse and change all your stuff but yeah.
alwaysthecheesegrater
If you fill out all the right paperwork, anything is possible.
mikeatike
Hyphenated or like completely new?
vanfem
Encrypted surname1 with surname2 as key! Vigenere or xor perhaps?
FajitaJane
Totally new
mikeatike
Perfect.
The701
How long does the paperwork stuff take? Is it fairly straightforward?
FajitaJane
It doesn't take long. Though I imagine it depends on state. The changing everything takes forever. I'm still finding accounts with my old.
tobyisagoodboy
Yeah nah, miss me with that.
The701
Author of webcomic Saturday Morning Breakfast Cereal and his wife did that too: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Zach_Weinersmith
The701
Zach Weiner and Kelly Smith: The Weinersmiths.
leadenjerry
You’re lucky that’s possible in your country. We didn’t have that option :/
dfrinky1337
Every country has the option to change your name I guess?? You'd both have to do it. Not a part of the marriage procedures, but doable
leadenjerry
In Germany you need a very good reason for it, e.g. physical safety, emotional trauma or marriage. In case of marriage only one of you 1/2
leadenjerry
Can either adopt the others’ name or create a hyphenated name by adding the others’ name to their own. But the other spouse’s name will 2/3
leadenjerry
Remain unchanged and the children will also bear the other spouse’s name. 3/3
TheGrantAlexander
Not every country has that option.
dfrinky1337
Didn't know, I wonder what the reason would be
dfrinky1337
Didn't know there would be a reason for law to make it impossible to do, I wonder what the reason is. Here it's not even that expensive
TheGrantAlexander
Likely to prevent fraud. But not sure