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I'm a year on now looking for work. The economy is tough. But little things like this, exercise, cooking my favourite things and seeing friends keeps me going. Have a great day out there.
marquettegoldeneagles
Not sure where you are, but we are looking for like customer service people if you're interested?
tabirdie20110
I wish I’d have discovered Golden Retrievers earlier in life!! ❤️
PileOfWalthers
#18 will blow your tits clean off!!
eastend666
OMG, the way some people are picking these apart. Taken as a whole, they have value.
Comboverman
Lots of people on here are hungry like dogs to shred a hopeful feel good post - for their own sake. Life has probably hit them hard on a few # of these. Fair enough. but then find some of then that do bring sunshine and help. cheers
AnnaVonOesterreich
Take your filth to /r/thanksimcured/
Comboverman
Nobody is cured of nothing. I'm just trying to be optimistic - even though this stuff can come across as self help garbage on most days.
AnnaVonOesterreich
Fair enough. You're going for ‘optimistic’ rather than ‘miracle cure.’ I can respect that, even if my allergy to motivational posters remains strong. I wish you Safe journey through the land of self-improvement.
SisyphusRollin
*DSM-5 May come into play
ApothecaryGrant
You mean you can't condense a 947 page diagnostic manual into 20 pithy platitudes?
SisyphusRollin
Hold on I think camus had a quote about this...
hyperchondriac
#20: you can decide you want something different; doesn't mean you can have it. Pretty much all of these are fluffy nonsense.
Mr21782Man
12 It took me a long time to figure out that having a family so unreliable that you don't trust them with mail is the outlier, not the norm.
TheSlouchOfBethlehem
Pete Hogwallop's number 6 addendum: Do not seek the treasure
ApothecaryGrant
We thought you was a toad.
MadamPuddifoot
#2 oh lemme just blow all my savings on a trip... Down the hall 😑
mortrans
20... is the way I healed.
LanternDubi
Im coming up on 2 years out of work. I've had 9 final interviews, no offers. It does not get easier.
That said, if anyone is looking for a Software Product Manager hit me up! I have extensive experience in stakeholder/client relationship management.
woozle
happy cakeday!
Ericno91
#10 is some bullshit. My polisci degree is worth less than the paper it's printed on, and my back up, computer science, is experiencing a record low employment level
BitchCake
Attention has transformative powers. And you have a limited amount of it, that regenerates slowly. Spend it on things that give you something back. And don't try to achieve everything. A ship who tries to follow every lighthouse ends adrift, never reaching any port in the storm, until it eventually sinks or the crew starve. Focus on one goal at a time, and make if small, specific, contained in a clear to define end point. Don't try and master multiple skills at once, one at a time. They stack.
Grimmy32
Another one: Indecision is a killer.
pmathew
@OP. I’m in a similar boat work wise. And I too have been keeping up my exercise and new yummy recipes!
tooomanystevesgotbanned
For # 11, the word "not" should be in bold.
yepwatermelon
#1 OH boy! Let me just ACTION my way out of a mental illness...
yepwatermelon
OP I'm not criticizing you just to clarify. Happy cakeday :)))
icannotthinkofanyrationalname
Nice list. Number 5 resonates with me so hard. I had an excellent supervisor my first years at Bell Labs, and two excellent mentors. The things they let me attempt, and ultimately, the responsibility they entrusted to me. A few times, I feared I would break, but all I did was grow. Those chances made all the difference.
Comboverman
There's 3-4 things on the list that resonate. there's always some crap. but at the end of the day a little wisdom, some good luck and positive vibes are better than cynicism and negative shit..
Owl2017
What kind of bells did you make?
icannotthinkofanyrationalname
Not sure if you meant that as an LOL or not, but it hit hard, thanks. Bell Telephone Laboratories. It was a thing, back from 1930s through 1990s. By the end of the 90s, they had started to lose their way. The market had moved. I left there in 2000. By 2005 they were falling and merged with Alcatel in 2006, and were later purchased by Nokia 2016.
loma45
#1 has some large caveats. Taking action to address anxiety can be harmful, as it can validate the anxieties themselves even if they aren't really warranted. Often sitting with the discomfort, and just acknowledging it, is the right move instead of trying to "do" something to "fix" it.
Obviously mental health issues are far too nuanced for a short Imgur comment, but that's my 2c.
Comboverman
I think it's for general anxiety about things... like stop looking at the dirty dishes and do them. But it's severe mental anxiety - medicine always helps!!!!
Salticido
Yeah, I don't know if other people make the same distinction, but in my mind, anxiety is inspecific and out of the blue, and not something that you could take action to resolve. If it's not that, I consider it nervousness/worry/concern/etc. I feel random pangs of anxiety that are literally about nothing in particular, just my nervous system suddenly going into panic mode, so it's just useful for me to reserve the word for that.
feltenix
For #6 tell that to the man who went in Nutty Putty Cave. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nutty_Putty_Cave
Comboverman
Interesting story about the Nutty Cave. They should send all the peverted boy scout leaders there for a retreat.
brettfMagnet
I heavily regret investing in my education actually
Comboverman
Me too. I invested over 170,000 in education and am now broke. but that's the way she goes.
Theshnazzyone
Normalizing Not having an opinion on things you aren't informed on needs to be as large and bold as possible.
adamlstf9
#10 is a fucking lie. I’m out two years, $7,000, and any hope I had left from trying to invest in a relationship. Red flags are there for a reason: bail as early as possible, gents.
ApothecaryGrant
1. Anxiety can come from not knowing what actions you're even able to take. Show someone in a panic any doorway and they will barge right through it.
6. The cave I fear to enter is the one where I lose control due to my emotions and lash out. Some caves do not have treasure in them.
12. Bootstraps fallacy.
16. That depends on who is measuring it and what you want to trade that worth for. Have self worth, but know the exchange rate and don't expect it to be the same everywhere.
SubtleNonExistence
#10 I've definitely regretted investing in relationships
Comboverman
I find that investing in myself will have better returns in the future than investing in others. Life lesson learned - the hard way... once again.
KuriyamaSoManyNumbers
Same. Offered to help a friend through some legal trouble because i figured everyone deserved a fair chance to defend themselves. He ended up treating me like i was the worst person he ever met towards the end, broke his promose to pay me back despite him swearing he'd do so no matter what, constantly put me down emotionally, and even said he hoped i'd die to my face. He ended up losing his case and doesnt seem to understand why i refuse to answer his calls from prison
unclesporky
Also, who knows? Maybe you religiously go to the gym for a few hours every day, investing in your health, and later regret it because you could've spent that time at home building a relationship with your children. "Never" is much too strong a word.
zelda633000
Same. Some people are just soul-suckers, no matter what we do for them.
ChelVanin
I feel like meth is a more dangerous addiction.
ThrowAwayAcct0000
I feel like people-pleasing often leads to meth.
fformulaa
Had to go back and check. Stuck with me no longer than reading that list, rrqding your comment then having to scroll back up to see what addiction is the most dangerous. I must be part goldfish
Mrpipboy3000
I can kick meth, but my brother will never see me as an equal, and trying to make it happen will just ruin both of our lives.
PosthumousExile
Have you tried kicking your brother? Maybe in the shins?
Mrpipboy3000
I threw a brick at him once ... didn't end well
Owl2017
Dude we give children amphetamines, it's okay
pilomotor
Nope. Fentanyl or krokodil.
Clockworkdancerobot
Google says you can have a little bit as a treat!
ChelVanin
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Clockworkdancerobot
https://futurism.com/therapy-chatbot-addict-meth Okay not google. But AI chatbots being used for therapy are bad. very very bad.
CatShadowleaf
#1 I get panic attacks while sleeping. Guess I should just wake up and do something to stop them?
hyperchondriac
The understanding that taking the WRONG action leads to despair, loss and pain is what causes the anxiety.
SisyphusRollin
It took me decades to realize not everyone sweats so hard in their sleep like I do. Mix of .25 xanax and some zoloft and those night panics aren't happening as often or I just breeze through them. Was off the meds (VA fuckup for a month and change) and they came back, fucking shadows.
rafizard
Yeah, I didn't get farther than the first item in this list.
Comboverman
So I see how #1 hits different for people. I don't have severe anxiety. but I like some of the other stuff in the list. But obviously there's no simple way of most anxiety or trauma.
BigDaddysMeatWagon
Oh my gosh isn't that the worst? Medication changed my life.
KuroFluff
It they are from worry, then maybe. Therapy could help as well to deal with any underlying trauma.
CatShadowleaf
I will never actually know because I am dead asleep at the time.
ApothecaryGrant
This may be the day that you learn this for the first time, but sometimes anxiety develops into something that is completely illogical and is not even triggered by memories or emotional states. There's just a gangle of neurons that randomly hits the adrenaline for no reason. No reason at all. It can't be reasoned with. It's part of your meat now, like developing an allergy or asthma.
KuroFluff
I have an anxiety disorder, I'm aware of how anxiety can develop, but that doesn't mean therapy can't help with it.
I was trying to be supportive, not comprehensive, but perhaps my comment was taken the wrong way
FetchtheRaven
Gonna jump in here.. while sleeping? I have them as I'm falling asleep and they push me awake.. so I doze off.. heartbeat jolt.. doze off.. heartbeat jolt.. until I'm nauseous or so exhausted I fall asleep anyway. I can only find info on while sleeping.. doc doesn't get it either.
Started a couple of months before my grandmother died. Comes back every couple days/weeks, independently from ptsd related night terrors. Is that while sleeping? Or is it different from yours?
CatShadowleaf
It sounds like yours is different. I will wake from a sound sleep thinking that I am having a heart attack. Chest feeling hollow, heart palpitations, the works. I take buspirone for them now.
FetchtheRaven
Thank you for the confirmation ^^
SuperfluousMeh
Hi friend, I have PTSD and I have what you're describing when I'm feeling more stressed than usual. It's not a night terror, or a nightmare. It's a real thing, I got you. I felt exactly as you describe. Tell your doctor you think it's a myoclonic jerk, also known as a hypnic jerk.
FetchtheRaven
Hey, thanks so much! You may finally be able to help me get some help. I really appreciate this.
wildwestpb
I thought benzodiazepine and beta blockers were the cure for anxiety.
johnwilliams123
Talk therapy will do wonders if you're willing to really self-examine and change your thinking patterns. Too many ppl just vent and not want to change. Meds are great when it's severe, but if your anxiety is psychologically based, ultimately you have to get to the cause of it (usually childhood programming). I know it sucks :/
Drennen
Shadow work and cognitive re-framing are great tricks if someone is willing to put in the effort.
QuartzPoker
They aren't the cure. They are a treatment for the physical symptoms, and can be helpful as part of a larger and more comprehensive approach that uses therapy and relaxation techniques to target the psychological effects and causes and medications to treat the physical symptoms.
lizlemlerlon
Depends on the severity
ebonyfaery
They are. Ask me how I know.
AnnaVonOesterreich
Lyrica (Pregabalin) depending on how severe or generalized the anxiety it is.
Comboverman
Sometimes it's sunshine, exercise, and a dog.
ForceAwakenWasLame
Meditation n limiting alcohol helped me
Natastrophe01
They are not nearly as effective as walking.
Owl2017
Nah not being a little bitch is the cure for anxiety
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Owl2017
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mannycheeks420
What’s the cure for what you got? A couple books and some empathy you trash bag of a person.
Owl2017
Nah clapping them Manny cheeks 24/7
dixxienormus
Beta blockers treat high blood pressure.
ebonyfaery
I'm on beta blockers for severe physical anxiety
bed1125
And decreases heart rate. A bit of label but beta blockers can treat the palpitations associated with anxiety.
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BitchCake
I'll say I do see your point in some cases, where there's very much an ongoing external part to this, or perhaps an internalized cognitive behavioural component. But sometimes your brain's break on the "oh shit" engine is broken and you need to adjust your neurochemistry to even have the chance to function normally.
ApothecaryGrant
With meds, I'd say my anxiety is treated to the point that it's effectively cured. Without meds, I get what's akin to an electric shock every 5-10 minutes. Its not something rational, logical, or even triggered by memories. It's neurological. It just happens, like sneezing. Sometimes anxiety is simply in your meat.
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TealcPI
I think a better word would be it "manages" the condition. It doesn't cure as the condition returns when the meds are stopped. Similar to the likes of diabetes medication, it doesn't cure but it manages the condition.
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ApothecaryGrant
I cannot stress this enough, but it is completely mood-independent. I could be having a good day, out for a walk, enjoying the weather, listening to some music, and it still happens. There's no memory associated with it. Just *zap.* A miniature panic attack lasting a fraction of a second. It cannot be controlled by anything but meds.
You wouldn't blame a person with palsy for shaking because they can't mind over matter their situation. Think of it on that level.