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ViolentlyJaded
I don't think I could do anything for 24 hours staight. I'd try to sleep that long though.
Trankia12
Sleeping is doing something. I’d even go as far to say it’s doing something productive, because everybody needs their rest.
nowinsituation
24 hours straight is pretty impressive
Lontri
I've done that multiple times when wow expansions have come out. Getting more and more difficult with age though lol.
RitzBitz25
I take my whole birthday month off every year to do whatever the fuck I want, and it's glorious
GrumpyClimber
That is awesome, I always take my birthday off but a month would be fantastic.
I always buy myself an expensive present. :)
BrockEffingSamson
I applaud you, but if I did that I would have no memory of how any of my work software functions, what my passwords were, what my clients cared about, etc.
GravyEducation
Lucky fucker. I do always take my birthday off and the day after though. It's not a request off, it's an "I'm not being there"
NonFungibleUsername
I always take my birthday off, because I’ve only ever worked my birthday twice and both times were terrible shifts.
nothingunused
I'm glad you've learned your lesson! Don't let it happen again.
hsalonen3000
Oh, I read that "I take my birthday off", but it was the whole month. I was taking my b-day off, when I just didn't want colleagues to congratulate me.. It was always awkward. Now, remote work and they probably won't remember it anyways, so I am working for the money.
DisconnectedFromWhatIOnceEmbraced
Same here 👊🏼🧡
RadLad86
I did that one year and afterward they changed it so you can’t do that anymore.
RitzBitz25
I can only get away with it cause I own my own business
crapybarra
Love it when they make a nice big sign that says "don't work here folks"
LetTheWorldBurnSinceNoOneFFFingCares
How do I keep seeing your name?
Chyram
I took next Wednesday off so me and my niece can binge Grounded 2. I'm nearly 50 and a woman.
InfocalypseRising
And if he watched TV the whole time nobody would bat an eye.
Shaodyn
Spend all day watching TV or reading, nobody bats an eye. Spend all day playing video games and you "need to stop wasting your life".
Mostlydeadpool
and if she spent all day on her phone, she's be pissed if he interrupted her.
noWhiteHorseHereJustBatturuPrinsu
If he watched some stupid sport on tv and treated his wife like a bloody butler for beer he would be considered 'normal' in the eyes of society. Instead he very responsibly uses one of his vacation days to take a day off and enjoy a video game for a more active form of entertainment and nooo now he's weird... weren't we past this in 2025?
battlebetter5772
Well at least it's not heroin
lewdev
Drinking at the bar, clubbing, gambling, strip clubs, or the questionable hobbies. They're not necessarily bad, they are just much more worthy of a complaint than video games.
nothingunused
I'm now curious about the "questionable hobbies" - what falls into that category that isn't strip clubs or gambling?
lewdev
Drugs?
Asadsadsadclown
My dad got my brother a littler heroin for his birth day. It was an Elizabeth Swan action figure.
Cilvaa
ratchetasslombax
Could be worse,could be Path of Exile.
JustUsLeagueUnlimited
Could be Lara Croft or Aloy or Samus. Just saying, I'm addicted to female heroes
htcz7je9kh
@battlebetter5772 I don’t criticize what you do on your free time so why criticize “a friend of mine?”
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battlebetter5772
Remember what the Dormouse said
SpaceForGold
I say as I browse the latest steam sale…
Neednoggle
We don't know he wasn't also doing heroin; it was a Friday, after all.
Nalianna
That's how we know. Heroin is for Sundays, after cocaine Saturday.
Snuggelapolous
That's the best night of the week to do heroin. Atleast that's what my friend says.
dorkyducks
Its heroin OR games, and it seems he chose games since he stayed awake for 24 hours LOL
Nanntuckett
I’ve taken PTO when a new game or huge update came out and never regretted it. Those first few days when everyone is going in blind are the best.
Illithidbane
The first days of WoW: Burning Crusade were a blast. Jumping in when everyone is in the starting zones, wearing starting armor, and all in it together were some of the most fun of my time with the MMO.
Wright2k
I still remember my cousin pre ordered his expansion through GameStop and he was in a huge line that wrapped the mall at like 8 till he finally got it at almost 2 am. He called me to brag and I told him that I got off work at 11:30 and hopped over to Walmart on the way home to grab some stuff and they were just putting out the display at like 11:45 and I was like “mind if I nab a copy?” The clerk handed it to me and I had it downloaded by 12:30. That first foray into new areas was amazing.
KatInTheCorner
What I don't understand is how people can understand that books, and movies, and TV shows are all stories. You passively ingest a story. People understand if you stay up all night to read a book.
Video games or TTRPGs are just...interactive stories. Advanced 'choose your own adventure novels. Sometimes you even get to do them with friends.
Genuinely no idea why the former is mature but the latter is childish? Perhaps because the latter sometimes requires imagination and active participation?
YesButMaybe
because it's not about the video game, book, movie, tv show, whatever story, etc. The "partner" is upset because what their partner wants to do is not about them so it's compounding their feelings of already being abandoned or excluded or not enough.
RyvaTheRenamon
Video games are "New" so it's the easy target for someone to get mad at. People used to blame TV, Movies, the Radio, Sports, and Books for violence and such but now it's Video Games.
I'm sure there's people out there who bitch that their SO is reading too much, or playing too much basketball, or watching TV, etc.
And it's not just a gender thing either, men and women do this shit all the time to their partners.
KatInTheCorner
Also, I'm a woman who loves video games so it's really weird to act like all women behave like this. What sort of high school boy 'girls don't like nerdy things' bullshit is this?
NotTheMamaNotTheMama
Even those who respect it have a hard time understanding it. I play wow, some days I just need to log in, do a mythic run and I get my boost of dopamine from it (I have ADHD). I love the challenge. I'm a 45 yo tired mom, and it brings me joy that I can still ace it.
tallyhoho
In the summer I used to take off every Friday or Monday, long weekends in the summer are the best thing ever
Telemapus
My wife is a non-gamer by deliberate choice because when she was writing her thesis I gave her my GBA and Warioland 4 and she said she nearly didn't get her thesis written because of that one game. That was 2002. Some years later I convinced her to play some C&C Generals with me. She got super into it, and at the end of the session she looked at her watch and said "OMG THREE AND A HALF HOURS?!" 🤣
Telemapus
After we had kids, from time to time we'd play as a family, and two sessions stand out: My kids feverishly building a hut in Minecraft to protect their mother from zombies and skeletons while they kept guard outside all night. And the Terraria session where three of us were gearing up to face a boss while my wife was guiding a cat back to the main base crying "Bring Momo home!"
namelessone
The original tweet could be meant endearingly, it's not necessarily that critical.
laserfrog
that is how I read it too
4noku
Incel bait post
GravyEducation
One of the best times in my life was just going through Arkham Asylum in one go. I didn't sleep till I was done. Fucking great game
t9dawg
menshumor is just another blue tick'ed POS account out to drive hate
insecure little bitch
Feralkyn
Sexist on all fronts. Nice. /s
Women can be gamers too, folks. And guys can also be twatbaskets
abcdefg912
This is where people use that tired ass "must be fun at parties" line, right?
pierceeze
Well definitely not 24 hours straight, but I’m gonna go wild on Borderlands 4
HotCarle
I just might dust off my controllers for this one. Borderlands 2 was the last game that truly hooked me.
AaronMiller106
Post is too old for this comment to gain traction, but in case anyone cares, this lady responded to say it wasn't a bad thing and she was happy for him. The reply and comments are being a little hard on her.
laserfrog
that's how I read it. Says a lot about how toxic that reply account must be
belindashort
I hate when this meme gets shared because it's two posts and in the second post she talks about how she completely supports this and this just becomes a misogynist trap
huffnpuff72
Taking a day off work for yourself is what tsking a day off work is for. Many years ago I got to work, found out it was going to be a quiet day and since the weather was so good I told them I was taking a rostered day then left for the day.
squelcheswetly
I’ve been playing Dune Awakening of late. My partner suggested I go back to rebuilding my base after dinner and show her when I’m done. The best.
LiluDallasMultipasss
My husband and I all through dating, engagement, three kids, three moves, and more than our fair share of life bullshit, have taken off the day of and the day after a new World of Warcraft expansion dropped. 15 years with the same group of friends enjoying our little escape from reality. For the Alliance!
Turkleturts
I want to upvote you because I do the exact same thing (I didn't take this week off for MoP classic, I swear). But also, FOR THE HORDE!
LiluDallasMultipasss
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schmendrickthemagician
I am a grown ass woman and today was my first day off for ME. I slept in and made brunch for everyone (because cooking food is my joy), and then my son and my partner watched me play Elder Ring and then Uncharted Four while they came and went on with their day. It was AMAZING!
schmendrickthemagician
Elden Ring
schmendrickthemagician
Both of them are very supportive of me playing video games because I was never good at anything besides point and click puzzle games. I’m still not great, but with their help I’m enjoying more types of games and it’s a bonding experience I really enjoy with them.
MaxMschief
You ARE doing great though - the Fun is the point 🌺
🌸 The whole POINT of games is the fun 💜
wyrmbear
A month ago I put in for PTO on last Tuesday just because I wanted to at the time. A gift for future me. Tuesday rolled around and sure enough, I was thrilled to find out I didn't have to go to work. Thanks past me, always lookin' out for us.
joshuasplinth
I talk to Past Me as well!! SOMETIMES Now Me will do something solid for Future Me, but it’s usually pretty grudgingly.
Hashbrown123
I always love when responsible me buys a treat for stoned me.
NowhereMan313
Responsible me stocks up on options for stoned me, because stoned me's ADHD is a bitch that DoEsN't WaNt ThOsE sNaCkS!
spittytrinkles
Yeah but you eat them, don't You.
lcplspanky
Those are the best. You're not off for any reason, there's no expectations, you don't have to do anything.
spittytrinkles
Stuff you buy online when you are drunk? Some of the best stuff you own.
ButtPlunger69
Also, I often forget about drunk orders so they are little presents for future me
Snuggelapolous
Self care is cool!
spittytrinkles
Snacks are cool'
ProgeriaProstitutes
That's nice. Future me is a hard worker but past me is a lazy sack of shit.
BatmanAndCradleRobin
wow lucky, past me is a dick, but future me is my best fucking bud I'll tell ya
rhitard
When I remember, I like to book a random day off in months where there aren't any public holidays.
CardeasIV
Past me only throws unrealistic expectation on todays me, which only leaves me the option of dumping it all on future me, to have little room to breathe
Apathy86
In my past when I was living paycheck to pay check I put some money in a shoe box under my bed. It had a note from (prob drunk me) saying "Next ones one me". I found it one day laughed my ass off. Then I went out and had a good day.
MeeseOnABeam
wait dont tell me, destiny 2 expansion launch
ZombeyHepburn
Guardian!
originfoomanchu1
Wow my past me seems to hate future me with a passion,
Always spending my money and making plans I don't want to stick to.
spittytrinkles
Can I just say? Spectacular Username.
R100GSPD
Lucky you, past me just ruins my life
wolfspirit21
You too?
Bukoden
You should ruin past you's future to show him who's boss.
CardeasIV
Past me only throws unrealistic expectation on todays me, which only leaves me the option of dumping it all on future me, to have little room to breathe
spittytrinkles
Ugh, the hangovers!
wyrmbear
Past me used to do that, for a few decades. Then we had a talk.
CardeasIV
Past me only throws unrealistic expectation on todays me, which only leaves me the option of dumping it all on future me, to have little room to breathe. Any suggestions are welcome
smokinghashalg
There is no more past me. Or at least I try not to think of him. I'll try to remember some good times, but only think of the bad when it's to stop me from wanting to slip back to where I was. Its hard but exercise, sleep, good diet are stuff that will help. I know i hate it too... it is what it is... shrug
Dimension09
What did you say to yourself?
CeoHuntingSeason
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smokinghashalg
Lol basically. This motherfucker won't stfu. It's like, stop playing this game, this movie's boring, no drinking or smoking for you.. like bro wtf... I didn't sign up to be raw dogging life.
Goldensands
The trick is to make sure you've unionised against capitalism, murdered your oligarchy overlords and nazi dictators, and get a full night's sleep
wyrmbear
you want the overlords to find out this one weird trick?!
Goldensands
I mean. Yes. A few decades if truth be told
wyrmbear
If the overlords find out about the one weird trick, they'll set up defenses, and then it's just that much harder. Keep it under your hat....
NotSomoneElse68
We had a couple of vacation days scheduled for the Elden Ring release date.
JemIsTrulyOutrageous
I'm usually the bad influence trying to get my partner to take off so they can enjoy a new release lol lifes about making special events for yourself.
Somethingwittyandunique
Can we stop these rage-bait posts that are low key women bashing - I, a human woman, do the same thing - take time off work to play video games, at the moment on my PS5, though I have also done this with my Switch & PC and soon, in the future, it will happen with a Switch 2. This is a thing that happens. If a partner doesn’t support your hobbies, guess what - that goes both ways! Plenty of men try to control women and stop them having hobbies too. The individual is toxic, not the gender.
Ariltongadottir
Which game?
FullMetalMonika
do expedition 33
UserMCP
I took three days off when the Switch 2 came out. What are vacation days for? That's right, fuckin' Mario Kart.
seesall9724
I took the day off for Battlebit coming out. I was one of the first people to hit the servers, and it was a glorious day.
GravyEducation
I long for the gaming days when you didn't have to have your own console and you could just have a friend with extra controllers
GentlemanScientist
*cough*Emulators*cough*
MajorasTerribleFate
Voyages Abroad, Casual Adventures, Tranquil Idleness... Or Nintendo (VACATION)
SupernaturalReactions
If your work guilts you about using vacation days because you aren't married or have kids... it's because you talk too much about your personal life at work.
My work thinks I live... Somewhere and do... Something when I'm not there. As it should be.
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Sigge1981
I took the week off when Mass Effect 1 was released back in 07. It was released on Friday, and early Monday morning I finished. I clocked in at a little over 36 hours played during that weekend. I had the whole week aftee to just do nothing. It was awesome! It also just happened to be around my birthday, so that was even better.
Illithidbane
So you played it again, opposite moral path, and enjoyed the NG+ perks. Right?
Sigge1981
Well, yes. Eventually
KalEl3188
I mean... I like Mario Kart too, but I'm not going to fuck it.
Nitrobakter
You know there is a rule for that...
WigglyBlondeNoodle
I'm actually far too happy with my og switch to upgrade to the latest model. I'm currently finishing up witcher 3 for the first time.
RyxZeven
Man, I really wanted to get a Switch 2, but all the shitty decisions Nintendo has made lately has made me really hesitant to actually buy one. Though I imagine when the Pokemon Legends AZ releases I'll be tempted.
Raeilgunne
az is the only reason I want one, everything else I want goes to pc.
abcdefg912
That's coming to the original switch, so no temptations there.
TobiOfTheAkatsuki
Kirby Air Riders is what sold me to get a Switch 2 yesterday. City Trials was the GOAT when I was a kid.
RyxZeven
Oh shit, i forgot about that one. Now Im even more tempted to get a Switch 2
GentlemanScientist
Not gonna touch Switch or Nintendo with a stick after what they're doing. Bricking an entire unit because you have a username they don't like? Fuck that.
ydwyrd
So it turns out that didn't really happen. The user later confirmed that the ban wasn't over his username, but didn't know why. Other people did a dig through his profile and found out he was heavily involved in piracy subreddits, including advising people on how to use dumped and pirated ROMs on multiple systems, and that his ban was likely over that and he just didn't want to admit it.
BlueDsc
It's funny how a pretty big chunk of Nintendo's controversies lately have been people either outright making shit up or twisting what actually happened.
ydwyrd
They've done shitty things, to be sure, but I prefer to say "fuck them" towards actual controversies, and not to the half a story someone posted on social media to garner sympathy for their "un"fair ban. Not like I've ever seen a thread where someone actually *was* unfairly banned.
GentlemanScientist
Huh, I didn't know that, thank you. It's still a thing that he has bought and own and that a company has the power to do anything that drastic to it is anti-consumer bullshit.
ydwyrd
Well they don't, not really. The idea that the console was "bricked" was just people being reactionary, in reality he was just banned from online activities, which is Playstation and Xbox's policies towards using their consoles for piracy as well.
Illithidbane
My wife was a non-gamer when we met. Thought I would grow out of gaming eventually. Instead, I corrupted her. Recently, she dropped 14 hours on a Saturday on a game, basically not getting up from her chair. (The game is Satisfactory, which she now has 125 hours played over the last 2 months.)
MaxMschief
This is the way 😎👍
ArdentSlacker
That game is amazing. I got my bestie a copy once upon a time, and then I'm touring his multiple facilities... O_O If you've got the right brain for it, that thing is amazing.
Illithidbane
She does Project Management. She's all about optimization and organization. She previously got hooked on Civ 6, now Satisfactory for the same reasons.
ArdentSlacker
Sometimes, all we can do is marvel at the way those minds we care about function. They... probably spot some things we do that they'd be frustrated with. ^_^
dutchguy1986
Oooh, the ways letsgameitout on youtube has broken that game
Illithidbane
Game Dev Reacts to @LetsGameItOut Satisfactory playthrough
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rng_2wZWReA
Drasham
amazing game!
rubypilgrim
those are rookie numbers. That's how you know we accept her as one of us.
Tardis1217
See that's the thing, you don't "grow out of" video games because that's like "growing out of chicken nuggets". Even snobs who act like chicken nuggets are "kids food" will eat plenty of things that are essentially chicken nuggets. Boneless wings, popcorn chicken, Gen tso, sweet & sour chicken. These are all essentially chicken nuggets lol.
And if video games weren't meant for adults, they wouldn't make games that contain mature themes. Every game would be like Mario if it was JUST for kids.
Illithidbane
Right. She didn't understand that because her only exposure had been to kids' games on the SNES and similar. She had no context for adult gaming. Then little by little, low pressure, I introduced her to a few. He first was Gauntlet 2014, then moved on to Left 4 Dead 2 with some of my friends. Eventually, Torchlight 2 and Diablo 3 got hooks into her. The first time I asked her to come to bed at 3:00 AM, she understood.
Ranlothir
Awesome game! I’m coming up on 2500 hours myself… kinda like crack to my brain.
Illithidbane
I am at 160+ and feel like I've done it all. Outside of dealing with nuclear power (which I don't need since my Rocket Fuel Gens already give me 220+ GW), I've built and automated everything, including a Portal network and Synthetic Power Shards by the truck load. Eventually I will start over again, but I don't see myself hitting 1000+ hours.
aslum
Oh man that's like double my time. Though I also spend a lot of time in Satisfactory Modeler just designing factories before I even build.
aslum
The Factory Must Grow!
tEMPuSER632
I never could get my wife to try games. We are now divorced.
Bacxaber
Sorry to hear it didn't work. Glad to hear you're out.
FireBirdHawk
Satisfactory? You mean "Oh c**p it's 3am and I have work in 4hours... but this belt isn't balanced..." That game?
Illithidbane
That's the one.
jakobbp
We accept her! One of us!
Illithidbane
I'm still the "gamer" in the family while she usually prefers to read or binge shows. But when I get her hooked on a game, she will obsess for a while. Diablo 3, Civ 6, Horizon ZD, Gloomhaven, now Satisfactory (and a scattering of lesser interests).
Omicron416
Gooble gobble, gooble gobble!
peppymints
Some folks get really irrational about partners enjoying video games as a hobby. Never have I ever had a partner that didn’t constantly try to undermine or run down my choice of relaxing at least mildly. It’s subtle “find balance, get outside too” all that. Listen, my house is immaculate. I work full time and take care of domestic issues. Let me be.
Theresmuffinyoucando
OMG the outside trick, that is so true, my ex did that every time! Bitch I don't like outside!
LittleAzie
Only time I complain about my partner playing games is when he gets on his 'I have no executive function' kick as an excuse on why he doesn't do things. He's gotten in the habit of 'ADHD bored, so game!' instead of planning other things to do. We are fixing that though, setting alarms and hanging a whiteboard up
lighterfox
My partner has absolutely no issue with me playing video games, she'll either read beside me or half watch as I play or go somewhere else if the game music is distracting her
The only REAL argument we have ever had was when I was playing Zero Dawn and she was giving out because I was playing it when she wasn't around so she was missing the story line...... Luxury problems I suppose
ZombeyHepburn
That is awesome and goals.
ChicanoBatman
As a gamer who started on Atari, and played thru 35 years of marriage with gamer kids as well, there is a true balance. Absolutely midnight game release weekends, boys over for Mario or COD, but.... everything has limits. Many relationships start out with picnics and dinners out, ending in staring at TVs, drugs, booze, games, shopping etc. I love 30 min of a beer and a video game after work, but 4 hours every night without connecting with my partner is probably a bigger issue. Balance
StopTheWorldIWannaGetOff
It's always the 'stupid game' or that 'stupid cartoon'... Meanwhile, shows with some *man* raping/molesting/murdering/torturing some poor kid/woman/family is all totally beyond reproach...
belindashort
Guess what this post is ragebeat because it was actually two posts back to back where she said that she completely supported it
dingybasement350
As long as something doesn't have a negative impact on a person's life and the people around them then I don't see the problem. It's super weird when people pull this shit and it sounds like you dodged some bullets.
fitgirl1
I think there's layers here. If the partner contributes equitably to domestic requirements then sure, downtime is downtime and how you spend it is up to you. But in the example above about the husband playing for 24 hours, I'd be willing to bet that she's not able to just take a 24 hour time away from kids and household duties to just peace out. However there definitely is the layer of treating playing video games as a children's thing.
SilverFoxChaser
This is my partner and I'm really fucking starting to hate her. I'm not a fucking plant. I don't 'need to go outside' to fucking what? Stare at cars passing? It's boring, she's boring. She can't sit still for a minute and when she does she's on her fucking phone. Either shopping or texting her mother.
wtfIsTheInternet
one fucking hundred to this. my house is in order. my finances are good. I spend an appropriate amount of attention on the family. leave me the fuck alone with my games.
cadesama
Yes, but not the OP in the screenshot. An angry comment underneath does not indicate that she was actually angry.
ilovetraveler
I can understand irritation if playing video games takes away from somebody contributing around the house or not doing things they're supposed to, but if they get everything done, then there's literally no issue.
cherryoct
My husband and I love playing video games together. It’s usually one plays and the other watches/gives advice.
somethingsomethingmcbob
Yah, we do this, too!!! Decompression time is so necessary, especially with our nation being so fucked up right now (we're in the US).
Cucumberclouds
Same! We loved playing Trine five and trine 4 together. Way to relax, chat, connect after hard days working and raising kids. I make no apologies. We like doing the same as you as well, watching/talking
arcadia2000
As is tradition.
I have been "the mapper" for 30 years.
The current situation is me dropping 25 markers for him to go fetch korok seeds on BOTW and sit back and enjoy.
butIlikeitbecauseitisbitterandbecauseitismyheart
Ha. Same. I mark the temples and korok seeds and the high level fights. I really enjoy collecting and mapping and story gathering Then I watch him fight and give suggestions. It’s a fun combination.
Snuggelapolous
If my husband is plying video games I get more imgur time. It's a win win.
CaledonianSky
I'm sorry but if every partner you've had has flagged this as an issue then maybe there's something to it. It's possible they have all been genuinely unreasonable, however, relationships take effort and maintenance so if you don't share hobbies with your partner, it can be difficult to find the time to do this.
peppymints
This is kind of a rude thing to say, to be honest. Perhaps I was originally unclear, these were never issues that caused discord. But I was hoping to draw attention to video games commonly perceived as an inferior hobby. Thanks all the same.
Stark1y
Right? This is much more than just a love of gaming if every partner's been pissed about it.
Firsthope
Your partner should protect your space to decompress. Some people shouldn’t be in a relationship since they clearly don’t get the point.
cuddleskunk
Their idea of a "relationship" is "someone I can puppet into acting the way I want".
GatorConspiracy
Yeah, or like a live-in butler/janitor & cost-of-living discount
unclesporky
What's so special about outside? I don't want a sunburn or mosquito bites, and I also don't want to have to buy an uncomfortable and/or smelly product just to help avoid those things. And there's an easy option to avoid all of that. I also have air conditioning.
Tardis1217
Oh just a pro tip from another indoorsy, and painfully white person: Neutrogena now makes a sunscreen they're calling "ultra sheer" and it doesn't make you feel like a greased up hog lol. It comes in spray on and just tube, but I imagine the spray on is better for less mess. So, if you HAVE to go spend time outside for some reason, it's the best option I've found. 😁
scrumby
Some people have totally rational objections to partners ignoring responsibilities, including the social and emotional maintenance of their relationship, for hobbies. And then they either blame the hobby, or you hear about if from the deadbeat who frames it as ' that bitch hates when I have any fun...'
bubblestarmetallica
It’s because video games still carry the same baggage that books and comics carried in the the past; they are seen as
a frivolous, non productive pastime. An addiction to murder mysteries and box wine ,on the other hand, is A-OK.(which it is by the way)
Imapancakenom
I don't think that's it. Bitches see video games as toys for children. Bitches be like "you're a grown man and you still play video games?" in the same way they'd say "you're a grown man and you still play with action figures?"
ThrowAwayAcct0000
My parents won't even attempt games like that. They think things like video games and comics and superhero movies are childish, and thus, they don't do them. It's not that they don't like them for kids, they just don't think it's ok to still play with them as adults. I think also their generation scorned that sort of thing for women, so my mom doesn't understand me at all.
Gaelwyn
So... what would be considered a non-frivolous pastime?
scrumby
In the kind of toxic relationship described, something thats either benefits the other partner or fits into preset idea of what a man/woman/Christian/wealthy person/etc. should be. Why play video games when you could be into knives and then my knives would get sharpened all the time, or reading books because then you'd seem more intellectual...
FloatingOnACloudOfTitties
Anything the person complaining likes doing. It’s just hypocrisy.
jasondeslin
I'd say it's half capitalism demanding all time be productive, and half bitter (non gender specific) cunts who's parents disparaged their interests not understanding that they are traumatized and thinking if something is fun and it isn't restricted to adults then it's childish and shouldn't be allowed. (Sex and booze are fine, as is gambling, but heaven fucking forbid an adult read comics, or play tag.)
ThrowAwayAcct0000
My mom is of the opinion that fiction is for children.
ZombeyHepburn
Your mom is wrong. Or I am a child. ONE OF US IS WRONG.
ThrowAwayAcct0000
Oh, she definitely is. I too love fiction as an adult!
noWhiteHorseHereJustBatturuPrinsu
As long as you spend enough time together and do your fair share of household chores it should never be an issue. Problem is people have different opinions about how much 'enough' or 'your fair share' is. So that is a subject to discuss while you're still dating
Mostlydeadpool
its usually either "how dare you spend time not entertaining me" or it's "how dare you being have a good time when I'm not.". either case it's an issue with them, not you.
Lontri
Yupp, my ex fiancé would ignore me all day long, but as soon as he heard the WoW loading screen music, he'd get out of bed and came into the living room to either criticise me for wanting to play my favourite game when there's other things to do (let me remind you, all he did with his free time was lay in bed napping or staring at his phone, and well he did also grow weed), or he'd demand that we have to watch a show or movie together, and he'd spend the whole time staring at his phone.
Badgerbadgerson3
Fuck, now I kind of miss playing my Lock. Black Temple back in the day was so fun.
FetteredJuvenescence
That, and a surprising amount of people--more commonly women than men, but men too--still view video games as a childish thing that adults should give up. They disapprove of the choice of hobby, more than the time spent on it.
But regardless of what your hobby is, if your SO constantly derides it, that's a red flag.
werrywerry
Also why a solo game dev gets burned alive for posting their work on Imgur, but other artists get showered with praise sharing their actual Etsy links.
Tardis1217
Exactly. And it's like, who cares if it's childish? Ooo so you're a big grown up woman who gave up childish things like playing with Barbies, and now you do what? Watch makeup tutorials, read romance novels, and listen to true crime podcasts? Cool use of your time. Internalizing body dysmorphia, setting unrealistic relationship standards, and fostering paranoia. Have fun being miserable. Imma go escape into nostalgia and be happy for a few hours out of my day 🤣
Mostlydeadpool
The term itself is insulting. "childish". it's a way to put herself above the other and decide what's acceptable. one human DOES NOT get to decide what's okay for another human. you get to decide what's okay FOR YOU and if someone else does something childish or unacceptable, you bounce. simple as that. asking/demanding/expecting someone else to change what they enjoy FOR YOU is simply manipulation and/or narcissism ("I don't like it, therefore it's bad and all people who do it are bad")
Mostlydeadpool
well, from the outside it seems like a waste of time. but then again, so does shopping or watching TV or scrolling on your phone. unless it's like reading non-fiction as part of your epic grind, it's all decompression and entertainment.
I would take it a step further and say if your SO is just generally judgmental about *anything* you do, you might want to reconsider things. Because once that rot starts, it's almost impossible to stop. nothing is ever good enough, etc...
MarkWatneysVicodinPotato
Felt this one down deep...where were you 20 years ago?
Mostlydeadpool
right here. just a little younger. but to be honest, I learned that lesson relatively recently so earlier me wouldn't have been much help. He probably would have told you that "if she's happy, you're happy, right? so make her happy.." and that way leads madness. You can't make anyone else happy. All you can do is be yourself and if that *happens* to please other people, great. but that's as far as you can go...
eetsumkaus
my mom is mostly a sweet woman, but she says a lot of stuff like this too. Like when I go to events by myself she asks if I was sad about it. She genuinely cannot understand that people can be perfectly fine doing things by themselves.
euphoricopportunity
I admit, I felt weird the first time that I went to a non fast food restaurant alone - like it wasn't allowed or something. Quickly got over it (this was before the whole fast-casual category emerged).
graehall
These pots are incel bait, designed to angry up the blood and start shit about women. Don't fall for it
noWhiteHorseHereJustBatturuPrinsu
Pretty sure porn is the very definition of incel bait
abcdefg912
the fuck that have to do with anything
4noku
laserfrog
I was surprised the women's message wasn't standalone. I just assumed it was her bragging, flexing, or just stating, not dunking.
Lontri
I've seen women nag at their male partners about gaming, and I (woman) have been nagged at by male partners about gaming. Quite often in the middle of playing I've heard "wife aggro, I must go". There is one guy who has deserved any and all anger from his wife though, because turns out he wasn't doing chores and such and then he complained that his wife is treating him like a child.
Rawksrawr
See I can totally support the 24h planned binge but I would leave a man who is like a child and doesn't pick up their part in house care
zazznz
You say this but it is a running theme among healthy men who are in relationships. They are not incels by definition.
CreightonBlack
"Incel" stopped being literal a long time ago, and refers to a relatively broad school of misogynistic thought. Healthy men who are in relationships can be incels by subscribing to those schools of thought.
CreightonBlack
DV me if you like, but it's what the word means. r/braincels didn't test people for celibacy, it was just a place to brew misogyny. Non-celibate people went there and were incels, and their ideas spread beyond r/braincels.
CaledonianSky
I think there are 2 possibilities here: 1. These men are genuinely not doing anything wrong/irresponsible, in which case it sounds like they are in somewhat dysfunctional relationships and should find someone who is more flexible and they share more interests with. 2. They are engaging in their hobby excessively and it is having a negative impact on their relationship.
DukeDarkwood
And technically, there doesn't seem to be any solid indicator that she disapproves. The post COULD be a flex. Might not be, true. But it doesn't seem to have any 'charge' to the words, one way or the other. At least to me.
cadesama
You're right and you should say it. Claiming someone is angry or emotional is a classic tactic to demean someone's otherwise normal response. It reads as fondly amused to me if you take away the allegation she's angry or somehow trying to ruin this for her husband.
NowhereMan313
Yeah, agreed. I'd rather stir shit about wet blanket significant-others, regardless of gender. They suck, y'all, and it's not always the wives. I run a comic and game shop, and I've met many a wife whose husband is the one bringing down the fun.
RadioFloyd
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RadioFloyd
You must be lying. Only women can be…uh… (/s)
viva93
I don't know about that. you may be right, but as a gay man in a healthy marriage I see this even casually among female and some male coworkers mentioning it off handedly to their work friends. I doub it's a gender thing. I just wanted to offer my own two cents while removing the sexually/gender charged aspect of the thought and that there's very commonly people who just hold these takes. They'll gripe about it but will take a day off themselves to enjoy a concert
MaleProstateMilker88
It's more like people who don't fit together 100% trying to make a relationship work despite the differences (one's hobbies include video games and the other's clubbing etc). Or people who have unaddressed issues about things like intimacy who have trouble being away from their SO or being by themselves, and struggle with that. But incel ragebaiting does exist, too.
Feralkyn
It's not a gender thing. OP made it a gender thing with the title. It's bait.
CaledonianSky
That's kinda the whole point though, it's made to be plausible to hook people in, that doesn't mean it's not incel ragebait. There is also a distinct lack of context to deliberately make it seem like the woman in the scenario is unreasonable e.g. maybe the wife now has to take care of 2 children all day for all we know (same goes for your work friends). Also, bitching about your spouse on social media is a fundamentally dysfunctional thing to do.
graehall
I just look at the title, plus this specific format of "post by a woman, and a picture, then a 'clever reply by a man'" are literally an incel meme template that gets posted around with different statements in both places but the same energy each time. It's tiring
viva93
it's alright. I understand. It may very well be ragebait, but it's a sort of situation where what it's emulating isn't just bait but also not an uncommonly held disposition.
CaledonianSky
If anyone in a relationship is angry at their partner for spending a genuinely reasonable amount of time on their hobby then it sounds like a dysfunctional relationship and both partners should find someone who shares more of the same interests.
scrumby
' What about black on black crime?' Bigots bring stuff like this up in order to deepen the groove of existing biases. Women's interests and hobbies are so ridiculed they're punchlines - women be shoppin- but no, its those nagging women who won't let men just like what they like...
CaledonianSky
Yeah, this just sounds suspiciously a like a modern equivalent of boomer men moaning about their wife "nagging" them for going to the pub/bar. They would neglect to mention that they've been out drinking 3 times that week spending the food money and leaving their "nagging" wife alone with 3 kids.