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It's not that we don't like you or spending time with you. It's just that it can be mentally draining to us at times and we periodically need quiet time to ourselves to recharge.
NovaHedonist
A partner of mine couldn’t wrap her head around the fact that *all* social interactions, including being with her, were draining to me
My wife puts back as much as she takes, mainly because we’ve been together 12 years and she knows when i need downtime
Aarkenth
My best friend is normally not draining, but his longtime girlfriend is, and he is when they're together. They're codependent as hell, too. We're all roommates, and man does it suck the fun out of hanging out/living with them.
vertumnus1
If you are trying to be not draining to your pet introvert:
1) Find a quiet activity you can do in their presence (reading, playing on your phone)
2) Do not expect to 'be entertained'. Just be chill, hang out.
Once your introvert's batteries are recharged, they will be available for playtime again
quietwalker
"there".
realGeorgelucas
I know a few folks that are super draining. They have the energy of children at a family function that run in from outside to interrupt a serious conversation to say "WE JUST SAW A LADYBIRD!" and run away again.
KingOfTheImgurians
My lovely missus is one of the exceedingly few people with whom simply sharing the same room isn't anxiety-inducing. I'm going to be married to her forever.
PipWhipple
Found someone who isn't draining and, in fact, provides energy being around them! Unfortunately, I am still a drain to them. Or a vampire, I'm not sure which.
RenaissanceFaireMan
Go to Walmart or any store, watch as people block the aisles; they intentionally block the aisles. There's always someone standing in front of the thing you want to buy. Worse, their cart is on one side of the aisle and they're on the opposite side, completely blocking the entire aisle.
Sad thing is I go shopping with my mom and she does the exact same thing.
Lontri
My parents are apparently worried about me because I'm so "isolated" because I'm not going out and socializing with people. I'm and introvert. I'm the guild leader of a mythic World of Warcraft raiding guild. I go to one cruise and one festival every year, and at both of those I'm kinda famous for being a crazy person for being a bit of a crazy person.
I tried being more social for a few years and ended up getting horribly burned out, which I'm still recovering from 8 years later.
Crustypeanut
Being the GL of a mythic guild is exhausting in its own right. Shits nuts trying to organize a bunch of people for that kind of content.
LuminoZero
My old boss was a nice guy, but a real energy vampire. He'd just dominate every conversation. I could endure it, but some of my colleagues had a rougher time.
kewakl
I think that I know your old boss. meet the new boss, same as the old boss!
Hoogemast
My SO mentions me draining her battery and lately i kinda feel upset about it, i try my best not to... Luckily I sometimes charge her battery as well. I do feel stressed about it, because I have to hold back and that is draining my battery sometimes.
KiciaKicia
This… I’m in the same boat! Thanks for sharing..thought it was just me/us. We love each other but it’s hard when he’s exhausted and I still want to chat … can feel lonely sometimes, but not all the times.
gumshoe99
What if I drain myself?
themobileappisbroken
When I travel for work I sometimes find myself in our head office for a week (where I don't normally work).
I used to think it was the travelling that made me bone tired but I finally figured out that it was due to being around so many people at the same time.
OnyxTurret
I used to think in terms of intro/extroverted, but now I don't think anyone is really either, you just need to find the ones that recharge you and avoid or mitigate the ones that drain.
TankoJoe
https://imgur.com/tSarTQC.gif
Sethiusalpha
My wife works with one of these and used to complain about her every day. When I pointed it out (by sending her a picture of this scene), she started just shutting down the energy vampire at work instead of engaging. Now said vampire passes out at the computer, starved and deprived of my wife's energy that is now dutifully saved for me to drain instead.
Dannyalcatraz
There have been times when I’ve left parties I’m throwing.
Littledirtybirdyfeet
My husband is the only one outside of family who doesn't drain to be around. He felt like family, which I associate with home and safe spaces, from the day I met him
RenaissanceFaireMan
I was at an auction earlier, someone accused me of stealing. I'm all, "So you think I'm stealing from this auction AND I'm just letting you know I'm stealing?"
Was passing out free samples of the items we were selling at auction.
RenaissanceFaireMan
Please, I've got a $300 jacket on, my boots are $150, Carheart hat and shirt on, but I'm stealing $1 worth of toffee?!
kewakl
carhart: formalwear for today's active redneck
Ohdearthesearemymonkeys
Sweet Jesus my neighbor is a black hole of draining
RenaissanceFaireMan
I was at an auction earlier and someone accused me of stealing. I really wanted to say, "So you think I'm stealing AND letting you know I'm stealing?
Nanntuckett
I love hanging out with my friends but it definitely is socially exhausting.
Shoutrr
what i'd love too is for people to stops mistaking anxiety, adhd, timidity for introversion. they are not mutually exclusive, but they aren't a placeholder for each other either.
ScarecrowSticks
After every outing:
Higure
https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/opportunity-rovers-final-words/
lddiaz
Rest well Opportunity
AwwDamn321
marcusrenas6
People don't understand what an introvert is. It doesn't mean we can't be around people or socialize. It means we don't need to be around people to socialize.
Radijsjes
This morning in bed was pretty damn draining. But still glad I married her. 🤩
whatseventhepointt
But what if everyone is draining, all of the time and it never ends?
GuitarBobMonterey
That's when you'll find me home workin out a song or some other musical bits.
theshinobi23
I get that way sometimes. Usually a couple days unplugged from everything social, including just reading the news, and getting a bit of extra sleep, and I'm back to liking my people that I usually like.
Fishkeeper
That's probably some combination of overstimulation, exhaustion, and depression.
MidnaShadow
Mental health challenges should exist in life as a "one-at-a-time choice" or possibly "best two out of five" odds in life, rather than "everything, everywhere, all-at-once" format for so many & only learning survival strategies as $$$ extra credit later in life. Hmmmm .. I really should re-watch that movie again, come to think of it!
Fishkeeper
Illnesses in general, especially chronic ones, should be like status effects in some video games. You should only be able to have one at a time. Got knee issues? Welp, at least you get to unequip the migraines. Develop anxiety? Bye-bye depression.
InfocalypseRising
That's depression
whatseventhepointt
MidnaShadow
Oh damn... You're probably right.
TheGreatSynan
I knew I'd found my wife as soon as I realized she actually REcharges me when we're alone together.
DataBeardFace
When that stopped is how I knew the relationship was over with my ex.
IronCore
My gf and I have been together for ten years on the 31st. We also knew we were right for each other in the same fashion.
SirRichardOfHead
Hell yeah, brother. I didn't know people like that even existed before meeting my wife. My ex was completely different and that, in retrospect, is a huge factor in why we got a divorce.
HandoB4Javert
she's the spark in your life
Artebudz
Only person ive asked out so far is the only person I know at the moment who I feel more awake after spending hours with. Still getting used to wanting to be social with someone
donkeymoney
How can I be that recharger?
StevieTheAussie
Plug in.
Badprenup
Be his wife I guess
onlyhalfghost
in my experience of all 3 people I've loved, all for this reason (and I was this for them) - be someone with whom they can be alone together
forelle
Number one is probably to be comfortable to just be able to be in the vicinity minding your own shit. There is a surprising number of people who don't even have "their own shit" or stuff they would love doing when now one is around. This can even be people that are popular and thus used ro be rhe center of attention.
Vargood
Start with being a good listener and learn to be comfortable in silence together. I think you also need to be able to find the other person genuinely interesting.