Some people don't care for sex, some people aren't seeking romantic partners. Regardless it isn't on us to decide what their relationship is. I don't know these people but I hope they are happy doing whatever they want as long as they are all cool with it. They certainly seem happy here
It's odd that people being poly is such a joke to folks, it's a wonder why they all stay so private about it and just live their lives being chill as hell and happy.
It's a joke to so many because many who try it do it for the wrong reasons such as to save a failing relationship or become someone already cheated or people end up having an issue with the situation and it causes issues and no one handles it well, etc.
Most people aren't the personality types and are emotionally mature enough to do polygamy the correct way. It's far more rare it's done well and with the right intent behind it.
I brought my BFF on one of our family vacations (30+ people camping in northern Michigan) and my husband's cousin insisted we were a throuple. My response, "Unlike you, we don't fuck people outside of our marriage".
I'm gonna be honest and say that the "they were roommates!" stuff has gone too far the other way online. People literally can just be good friends without fucking each other and it's pretty gross to immediately insist that you know their feelings or situations better than they do. In the worst cases this ends up being it's kind of phobia by insisting that apparently asexual or aromantic people MUST be secretly gay and having sex with their close friends
Agreed. Just as there was a prevailing bias in Edwardian times to suppress the possibility that a historical figure might be LGBT, there seems now to be a bias to assume it. Relationships, sexual, romantic and platonic, do not always translate nearly across eras and cultures. So sometimes roommates were gay. Sometimes they were literally just roommates. Sometimes they were more emotionally involved with each other than most friends are today, but still not romantically. And
in principle i agree with you but this photo seems to be painting the three of them as a lot closer than just her being his wife's bff.... so, yeah could go either way? idk.
It's because so many want to live this free and open but don't know how to make it work. There was a time when humans were just small groups of naked primates that took care of the colony like gorillas and that is still part of our deoxyribonucleic acid!
as an old not gay guy I would recommend that all men sit when they pee at home. cleaner, quieter, easier dabbing, plus provides a nice resonance chamber for a cheeky fart
Honey I am old and tired. I take a sit down break any chance I can and hate wiping up pee. Note to men: sit down to pee as you get older. Why? As we age the stream goes from a heavy single to a shower head shooting multiple directions. And you don't know until you start pissing.
It's entirely possible they're telling the truth. Even if they're not, is it really anyone else's business what consenting adults do in their private lives?
I think that's unreasonable. They said what the relationship dynamic is. It's not a polycule. You can believe people when they tell you about their relationships and sexuality, or you can tell them you know better than they do about their lives.
i don't mean to tell them what their relationship is, rather i am speculating on whether or not they're telling the whole truth. either way, i only care enough to comment on it cuz hubby is being handsy with both of them. if it was wifey being handsy with both, it wouldn't even register for me that their relationship could be anything more than they say it is.
It's a photo. Putting your hands around someone's waist in a photo is normal enough that people who deliberately don't do it ("hover hand") are cited for it.
I'm friends with a married couple who have a platonic roommate in the wife's lifelong best friend simply because of the cost of housing in our area so I think this might be more common than folks think.
One of my best internet friends has been best friends with a lady she's known since high school, through multiple marriages and everything. They honestly should just live together. They spend all their free time together and they're in their 40s now. Would save them a ton on fuel.
As college students my wife and I were looking at rental houses with her sister and her sister's bff. Several places refused to let us rent. We eventually gave up. Landlords just wouldn't permit a couple to live with anyone else, saying they don't agree with the lifestyle. Like bro, the lifestyle of affording rent as students?
Just like other organized crime branches Landlords have a code of conduct. If one of them would rent to more than 2 people then every other landlord could/would do the same, which could possibly slash the market in HALF! Think about the consequences!
As someone in the biz, the real 'lifestyle issue' was likely just being college kids. A lot of landlords, especially older ones, hate renting to college kids and justfy it with absurd respectability standards. Personally, I love renring to college/grad students because they self-recruit new tenants. Every few years, someone moves on, the remaining friend takes over the lease, and moves a new friend in.
Yeah. I hate the 'respectability standards' that a lot of landlords put out. It makes it difficult to move with my throuple. It's also part of why I'm trying to just buy a house for the three of us to move into...and then maybe add a doggo and maybe a kid or two.
My husband and I had a platonic roommate for years. He was a good friend of ours. He was in college and we could use the help paying the mortgage, so it worked out well for everyone since we didn't charge very much. This doesn't seem weird at all.
Jay is bi/pan, Silent Bob is gay. Confirmed by the author, Kevin Smith. Which makes this, well, let's just say I'm stating it for everyone who didn't bother reading your Nom de Imguerre.
Fuck I'm planning my life with my 2 best friends from high school and our existing/future partners. The boomers next door came comprehend that we're not fucking each other. Like calm down ... Not everything is about sex. If we had boomer opportunities we'd get 3 houses all in a row or something but we're millennials and realistic
I think the joke of the title is that the wife doesn't realize it's now a polyamorous relationship which is what makes it funny. Not necessarily dunking on polyamorous relationships, just a sweet innocent realization for these three.
I don't think there's any reason to believe this is a polyamorous relationship. They specifically said it wasn't. It's possible that they're lying, but there's no reason to suspect that.
Because being hateful about queer people kinda requires you go hang out with the nazis now cus that's the only group that'll tolerate it usually. hating polyamorous people is still pretty popular.
Because they have to live in a society with them? Why do kids on the playground care what games other kids are playing on the playground? Because if they're going to form relationships with them, they're going to have to play their games.
If you can't communicate this stuff to your kids, maybe focus on your parenting skills and not the folks who are living their own lives being happy. Don't expect all of us to pick up your slack.
My college gf's mom used to rant about how "disgusting" it was that she worked with a quad. 4 teachers, 2 men, 2 women lived together and behaved like they were all married to each other, technically they were two distinct legally married couples. Raised their kids together, and were just generally a loving family. Some people just gotta be haters
My wife grew up in a hippie "commune" with 9 kids and 6 parents (3 married couples) in the middle of Germany (pretty rare here) in the 80s. They had a ton of animals, a big yard, grew up in a loving environment and all turned out great. What's unusual for some doesn't have to mean it's bad. They did all decide never to do genetic testing amongst each other though. They all treat each other as siblings anyway, so they felt no need to figure out if their parents "shared" partners or not.
Not necessarily. For some, the forbidden is what's enticing. It wouldn't be fun if they had permission. It's extremely gross and those people are dangerous.
Others cheat because they're unhappy and too immature and emotionally stunned to have the difficult conversations that need to be had. They wouldn't want to be polygamous, they want an easy escape.
Cheating still happens. Ethical polygamy can help but someone willing to cheat isn't 100% going to be ethical in their polygamy.
People still cheat in polyamory though. Generally there are still rules, it's not usually just a free for all. Anyone who breaks the rules is cheating. Like you could put someone off-limits, say your sibling. And if someone in the polycule still sleeps with your sibling, that's a massive betrayal.
Not sure what that has to do with anything. Your original statement basically said if no one cheats, it will end cheating. Which is true in any kind of relationship setup. Ethical-any-kind-of-relationship ends cheating. It's just kind of pointless to say, since a) it's obvious, and b) it's not happening in the real world.
reinharder
Some people don't care for sex, some people aren't seeking romantic partners. Regardless it isn't on us to decide what their relationship is. I don't know these people but I hope they are happy doing whatever they want as long as they are all cool with it. They certainly seem happy here
MasterMookie
Couldn't care less. As long as nobodys feelings is hurt or someone is cheating etc I won't say a thing.
FredGarvinMaleProstitute
Sometimes when they let you watch it's all you really need.
ChoamNomski
Alsoashley
It's odd that people being poly is such a joke to folks, it's a wonder why they all stay so private about it and just live their lives being chill as hell and happy.
MeowMachine12
It's a joke to so many because many who try it do it for the wrong reasons such as to save a failing relationship or become someone already cheated or people end up having an issue with the situation and it causes issues and no one handles it well, etc.
Most people aren't the personality types and are emotionally mature enough to do polygamy the correct way. It's far more rare it's done well and with the right intent behind it.
thesameasyours
A thruple but for economic reasons
RefurbishedArcReactor
"Monogamy? In THIS economy!?"
thesameasyours
https://media0.giphy.com/media/v1.Y2lkPWE1NzM3M2U1ZHY5cDRjejM0d2MzMmFzZHg2dnB0cGMzaXF3dHR2am9oMjRpNTQ1ayZlcD12MV9naWZzX3NlYXJjaCZjdD1n/vGBfIq20BjC4U/200w.webp
jenw
I brought my BFF on one of our family vacations (30+ people camping in northern Michigan) and my husband's cousin insisted we were a throuple. My response, "Unlike you, we don't fuck people outside of our marriage".
DarkBladeX
Not we, just you and her
CuddlyCynic
Nostradamuswaswrong
Monogamy? In this economy?
WhoaNickie
I don’t get it, what is the news?
charondaboatman
Dude.
Youhavinagiraffe
I'm gonna be honest and say that the "they were roommates!" stuff has gone too far the other way online. People literally can just be good friends without fucking each other and it's pretty gross to immediately insist that you know their feelings or situations better than they do. In the worst cases this ends up being it's kind of phobia by insisting that apparently asexual or aromantic people MUST be secretly gay and having sex with their close friends
Larktonguesinadicecup
Agreed. Just as there was a prevailing bias in Edwardian times to suppress the possibility that a historical figure might be LGBT, there seems now to be a bias to assume it. Relationships, sexual, romantic and platonic, do not always translate nearly across eras and cultures. So sometimes roommates were gay. Sometimes they were literally just roommates. Sometimes they were more emotionally involved with each other than most friends are today, but still not romantically. And
NiaMemeTraveler
Yeah. As an ace person who has lived with 2 different married couples, i am not loving the comments on this post.
IfIOnlyHadAName
Agreed. I also get the feels of, "everything's too sexualized but also everyone's also secretly intercoursing all the time!" vibes.
BishlamekGurpgork
I'm pretty sure that happened all throughout history, we just don't remember the gossip and the fanfics weren't immortalized.
Like, people got that just hanging out with one friend too much in high school buddies in the 90's.
Retrikaethan
in principle i agree with you but this photo seems to be painting the three of them as a lot closer than just her being his wife's bff.... so, yeah could go either way? idk.
hyptosis
It's because so many want to live this free and open but don't know how to make it work. There was a time when humans were just small groups of naked primates that took care of the colony like gorillas and that is still part of our deoxyribonucleic acid!
VibratingNipples
Well it's their life, as long they're ok with it
BobWeAdaBabyEetsAboy
Asexual people need love too…
mediumrarechickenstrips
Sounds like they'll need a few of these chairs
CptCronos
Like, I know the joke is it's the bi-sexual sitting chair but goddamn, if the lowest one was a bit higher I'd find that comfy as fuck.
Niagaran
And sanded and padded
itsallaboutthecones
Is that a custom cuck stool?
mediumrarechickenstrips
https://thepinktimes.com/innovative-bi-chair-redefines-comfort-for-bisexual-community/
waddyaknowjoe
No judgment here. That mortgage/rent gotta get paid.
TheOldSchoolisBack
A married couple taking on a single tenant to help pay the bills has been happening for as long as there have been bills to pay.
v
venompreacher
Im straight living in a house with my bisexual wife and my gay best friend
malachilenomade
Skywatcher16
at one point i was living with 2 married couples in a 3 bedroom home. rent/mortgauge is a bitch.
Dissipo
PorneliusHubertII
I'm a cis het male and I currently live with my best friend and platonic gay man and his partner. I 100% understand this dynamic.
ItsACrazyWorld
Who the fuck cares
OldGayGuy
That is TWICE the reminders to PUT THE DAMNED TOILET SEAT DOWN for him.
reinharder
as an old not gay guy I would recommend that all men sit when they pee at home. cleaner, quieter, easier dabbing, plus provides a nice resonance chamber for a cheeky fart
OldGayGuy
Honey I am old and tired. I take a sit down break any chance I can and hate wiping up pee. Note to men: sit down to pee as you get older. Why? As we age the stream goes from a heavy single to a shower head shooting multiple directions. And you don't know until you start pissing.
pareidoliaperson
Platonic house life laugh love partner.
Mithi
Shaodyn
It's entirely possible they're telling the truth. Even if they're not, is it really anyone else's business what consenting adults do in their private lives?
TheChunguskaEvent
i think he knows
firehawkcultist
Scottie doesn't know
Lightshadow122
Scruffy2
Imtoolazytothinkofaname
Source?
AThreeFootTallChocolateMooseWithFudgeEyes
Eurotrip
SchoolOfHardKnockers
Fiona!!
Retrikaethan
yeah was gonna say, seems more likely they're not telling everyone else they're a polycule or some such.
Larktonguesinadicecup
I think that's unreasonable. They said what the relationship dynamic is. It's not a polycule. You can believe people when they tell you about their relationships and sexuality, or you can tell them you know better than they do about their lives.
DangerBaer
Wanna know a secret? (People lie. Kind of a lot.)
That said, if they aren't hurting anyone, I prefer to just smile and nod.
Larktonguesinadicecup
People also assume things according to their own biases. Kind of a *lot* a lot.
brandon4liberty
drinkthederpentine
Fuck off with your high horse shit. Welcome to the fucking internet. People lie and people make jokes. Get used to it.
Larktonguesinadicecup
Fuck off with your telling me to fuck off for asking people to let people define their own relationships.
Retrikaethan
i don't mean to tell them what their relationship is, rather i am speculating on whether or not they're telling the whole truth. either way, i only care enough to comment on it cuz hubby is being handsy with both of them. if it was wifey being handsy with both, it wouldn't even register for me that their relationship could be anything more than they say it is.
Larktonguesinadicecup
It's a photo. Putting your hands around someone's waist in a photo is normal enough that people who deliberately don't do it ("hover hand") are cited for it.
jackohill108888
I'm friends with a married couple who have a platonic roommate in the wife's lifelong best friend simply because of the cost of housing in our area so I think this might be more common than folks think.
srsfaceI8C
One of my best internet friends has been best friends with a lady she's known since high school, through multiple marriages and everything. They honestly should just live together. They spend all their free time together and they're in their 40s now. Would save them a ton on fuel.
akefay
As college students my wife and I were looking at rental houses with her sister and her sister's bff. Several places refused to let us rent. We eventually gave up. Landlords just wouldn't permit a couple to live with anyone else, saying they don't agree with the lifestyle. Like bro, the lifestyle of affording rent as students?
pareidoliaperson
You can't even swing the costs of living these days.
Mithi
Just like other organized crime branches Landlords have a code of conduct. If one of them would rent to more than 2 people then every other landlord could/would do the same, which could possibly slash the market in HALF! Think about the consequences!
scrumby
As someone in the biz, the real 'lifestyle issue' was likely just being college kids. A lot of landlords, especially older ones, hate renting to college kids and justfy it with absurd respectability standards. Personally, I love renring to college/grad students because they self-recruit new tenants. Every few years, someone moves on, the remaining friend takes over the lease, and moves a new friend in.
OtterlyMagnificent
Yeah. I hate the 'respectability standards' that a lot of landlords put out. It makes it difficult to move with my throuple. It's also part of why I'm trying to just buy a house for the three of us to move into...and then maybe add a doggo and maybe a kid or two.
TinyBadger101
My husband and I had a platonic roommate for years. He was a good friend of ours. He was in college and we could use the help paying the mortgage, so it worked out well for everyone since we didn't charge very much. This doesn't seem weird at all.
mrbadxampl
hi I'm Jay, and this is my hetero-life-mate Silent Bob
NomDeImguerre
Jay is bi/pan, Silent Bob is gay. Confirmed by the author, Kevin Smith. Which makes this, well, let's just say I'm stating it for everyone who didn't bother reading your Nom de Imguerre.
phocalpoint
I heard homeboy fucked a Martian once
BoboTheIceMan
This has the same energy as I am C3PO human-cyborg relation, and this is my counter part R2-D2.
NomDeImguerre
That's because, according to writer/director Kevin Smith, that's exactly who they are.
gjallarhorn117
https://media1.giphy.com/media/v1.Y2lkPWE1NzM3M2U1M2l2Zmt5cXJraXdjZmo5bm8xeWNwaDhmcWZ4cHYyOGpyOHhid3ZkaiZlcD12MV9naWZzX3NlYXJjaCZjdD1n/LRBR6lW0diBCb9nab3/200w.webp
RaftinHippy
glovelyday
If they're all okay with it why should anyone else care?
lapus
Exactly
Mairoa
Fuck I'm planning my life with my 2 best friends from high school and our existing/future partners. The boomers next door came comprehend that we're not fucking each other. Like calm down ... Not everything is about sex. If we had boomer opportunities we'd get 3 houses all in a row or something but we're millennials and realistic
Tesaphine
I think the joke of the title is that the wife doesn't realize it's now a polyamorous relationship which is what makes it funny. Not necessarily dunking on polyamorous relationships, just a sweet innocent realization for these three.
Larktonguesinadicecup
I don't think there's any reason to believe this is a polyamorous relationship. They specifically said it wasn't. It's possible that they're lying, but there's no reason to suspect that.
mike13815
Consent requires all parties be fully informed.
Niagaran
But who are you to decide if they're not?
channelranger
Because being hateful about queer people kinda requires you go hang out with the nazis now cus that's the only group that'll tolerate it usually. hating polyamorous people is still pretty popular.
drtmr
Because they have to live in a society with them? Why do kids on the playground care what games other kids are playing on the playground? Because if they're going to form relationships with them, they're going to have to play their games.
CyanideBreathMint
Dude, you are grasping at imaginary straws here :/
Cataleast
What the FUCK are you talking about? :D
Crowlands
I think they're saying how much they love touching kids.
nachosyndicate
I remember the last time someone made me gay by visiting their poly house.... oh the good old days.
JaodenceRPB
If you can't communicate this stuff to your kids, maybe focus on your parenting skills and not the folks who are living their own lives being happy. Don't expect all of us to pick up your slack.
TheN8
TheAccursedHamster
Lol fuck off
Mithi
Or, and hear me out on this one, they simply come up with a new game and invite the others to _also_ play that game.
MoreOfABrewerReally
FromQueerToEternity
Yeah, exactly, and like how video games make people violent and reading books turns people gay and knowing trans people exist turns people trans.
Freak0zoid
I lived in this world together with trans people somewhere. After 38 years, i turned trans too.
FromQueerToEternity
See? That's how they get you. By EXISTING. So nefarious.
LeftRightThere
More housing for me
WaterUnderTheRocketAppliances
Some of us are jealous
TheAccursedHamster
Envious
trigonman3
Agreed.
veritas1980
nitemayr
Something to talk about that isn't the fire outside, I expect.
nclu
My college gf's mom used to rant about how "disgusting" it was that she worked with a quad. 4 teachers, 2 men, 2 women lived together and behaved like they were all married to each other, technically they were two distinct legally married couples. Raised their kids together, and were just generally a loving family. Some people just gotta be haters
freakdiablo
Hey, teamwork makes the dream work.
ThisNameIsMaybeTaken
https://media0.giphy.com/media/v1.Y2lkPWE1NzM3M2U1aHlneTJwaGpicWdodWd6ejN4NHYzYjc5OXUxcWhkaHIyZjFkem1zeiZlcD12MV9naWZzX3NlYXJjaCZjdD1n/rPjYoncYgknGo/200w.webp
qazxswedcvfrtgbnhyujmkiol
My wife grew up in a hippie "commune" with 9 kids and 6 parents (3 married couples) in the middle of Germany (pretty rare here) in the 80s. They had a ton of animals, a big yard, grew up in a loving environment and all turned out great. What's unusual for some doesn't have to mean it's bad. They did all decide never to do genetic testing amongst each other though. They all treat each other as siblings anyway, so they felt no need to figure out if their parents "shared" partners or not.
tempVillain
Zegg?
AtmaDarkwolf
'Disgusted' is code / repugnican for 'jealous' :D
MrCement
It takes a village, as the saying goes.
thatsnotaknifethatsaspoon
Someone named DarkBladeX having this take on this seems wildly on brand.
Niagaran
While the headline is slightly judgey, he gets worse in the comments.
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Longbowgun
Ethical polyamory ends cheating.
MeowMachine12
Not necessarily. For some, the forbidden is what's enticing. It wouldn't be fun if they had permission. It's extremely gross and those people are dangerous.
Others cheat because they're unhappy and too immature and emotionally stunned to have the difficult conversations that need to be had. They wouldn't want to be polygamous, they want an easy escape.
Cheating still happens. Ethical polygamy can help but someone willing to cheat isn't 100% going to be ethical in their polygamy.
DarkBladeX
It's not even polygamy. She's just straight up cheating on the guy
InkyBlinkyPinkyAndClyde
People still cheat in polyamory though. Generally there are still rules, it's not usually just a free for all. Anyone who breaks the rules is cheating. Like you could put someone off-limits, say your sibling. And if someone in the polycule still sleeps with your sibling, that's a massive betrayal.
Longbowgun
That's unethical polyamory.
InkyBlinkyPinkyAndClyde
Ok, so ethical monogamy also ends cheating then.
Longbowgun
...and serial monogamy isn't really monogamy...
InkyBlinkyPinkyAndClyde
Not sure what that has to do with anything. Your original statement basically said if no one cheats, it will end cheating. Which is true in any kind of relationship setup. Ethical-any-kind-of-relationship ends cheating. It's just kind of pointless to say, since a) it's obvious, and b) it's not happening in the real world.