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The person speaking is correcting someone who mistreated them.
being human means making mistakes or bad decisions; it's what comes after that's important. Also, boundaries are where one person ends and another begins. X = "don't call me names" ✓ = "I will leave if you namecall". Boundaries aren't rules for others to follow, they are rules for me to follow within my boundary (my sphere of control)
Grumptious
But also, good intentions aren't an inoculation from responsibility.
66DT
Exactly! Many abusive people will claim they have good intentions, but their words do not match their actions. Simply saying you are doing something from a good place doesn't obligate the other to accept. Nor protect you from accountability from your actions.
Clockworkdancerobot
And the road to Hell gets paved over yet again...
mksu
Just make sure you're protecting yourself while having good intentions.
66DT
Exactly! "Never set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm." Don't ever overextend yourself out of goodwill. And if you extend goodwill and they take it poorly or try to take advantage, it's a healthy boundary to disengage from them and and retract the goodwill offered. You never have to follow through with a plan that somebody else sent to a bad place.
mksu
That all sounds good. The only thing I'd add is that if they take your good intentions poorly, do make sure there is a step where you stop to consider if you perhaps goofed.