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Been dealing with the death of someone, went into a depression rabbit hole I been driving myself from but shit is HARD. Anyway, it's been like a week since I felt like crying randomly out of crushing sadness, but today. Listening to some music and it turned to old video game music I haven't heard since... Well, I was a teen. I started bawling, but I didn't feel sad. Just.... lighter afterwards. I don't know why I had that response, but man did it help my mood. The rest of the day is going to be a good day, and I look forward to tomorrow.
jimhotep
There's no program to follow to get through grief; every person's experience is unique. Focusing on taking care of yourself while it has you is paramount.
tallyhoho
People see crying as a weakness and it's really not, we have that response for a reason. If you've been programmed to not cry, it's really hard to get over that but you'll feel so much better allowing that to come out. Big hugs for you friend
GravyEducation
I don't cry in my day to day life, I am perfectly capable of just riding out something and tackling the problem... but the emotion doesn't go away, you just hold onto it. Pop on a movie and I'll cry my fucking eyes out. I actually just watched Inside Out 2, hoo boy
Jawesome19
That's a healthy and great way to get those emotions out. If you don't express them in one way, you'll express them in another, nahm sayin? Good job
Thesaya
Jelly. I pushed it down for so long I am pretty much unable to cry, nowadays. I am always appreciative when it happens.
CriminallyMysophobic
i sharted in grief. you're way ahead of me dude
SnakesInBowties
Sometimes the best solution is to revel in your pain and anguish and let it play out, as you allowed it to. Glad you are feeling better and sorry for your loss.
cuttysark
Sometimes, when I am very happy I'll cry
Kelleesii
The sadness has to go somewhere, when we cry we let it out, so we can make room for the good things. I'm sorry things are hard, I'm hoping that changes for you soon
Omnislash9
There's so much sadness in my soul despite the face I put on to the world. Getting it out with something I know will make me cry helps a lot. Beethoven's 5th, coco/inside out, a couple choice moments of doctor who... just lifts the weight a little to have a really good cry
sadbitterkitten
You are gonna cry the same amount of tears regardless, and holding them back just puts off the inevitable; best to let them flow and feel the cleanse
GravyEducation
Upvote but I will add that compartmentalization is not inherently unhealthy, it's actually a potential coping mechanism for particularly anxiety, to be able to say "I have to do this and this and I'm not going to feel anxious or sad, it just has to get done." But the rub of that is indeed, you didn't lose the cry, you just set it aside for another time. And overdoing that will absolutely blow up in your face. So find your healthy triggers, music and movies are mine, and go for it
sadbitterkitten
This is very well said and I completely agree
Jawesome19
That was a lovely explanation and I agree. Thanks
GravyEducation
Somebody explained it to me in actual therapy terms once but I just call it the "This is the Way" principle. Especially if you're doing something for like a loved one, the anxiety goes away, because it gives you a purpose for a brief moment. I just call it that because I'm a nerd and I do actually say that to myself to psych myself up for something I don't want to do. Basically just telling myself "no getting out of this, just buckle up and do it"