I’m so exhausted from the hate

TheSmellOfWineAndCheapPerfume

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I came together with a few people in my small (unfortunately) maga town to do a vigil for peace…

We are all over the place on the political spectrum with some big things in common: we are all anti trump, and the more conservative ones in this group are former MAGA trying to bring others out of the cult. They see him as the cancer he is and want to do better moving forward. So when they offered to help me plan my vigil knowing I’m left and progressive and explained they are trying to learn and grow and do better and have left maga ( 2 were conservatives but actually voted for harris and 2 were MAGA- and then there’s me the lone progressive)-I thought this would be a great opportunity to show healing and love in a hate filled world….

Also, I thought it would be a great opportunity for them to help bring people out of the maga cult fog….like maybe start to mend the divide that has been created and show unity…a bigger picture goal was in my head.

But when we announced the event, BOTH left and right people were angry. The right wanted this to be all about “the tragedy of Kirk” and the left people wanted to exclusively exclude ck. Now I’m not sad he’s dead, but I’m not losing sleep over it either but I’m not throwing a party. One of the planners helping me is an older lady and she wanted to be able to hold a candle for him and I thought since we are about love and kindness for this event, if she needs to mourn him, I’m not going to tell her not to. Also my idea was that if we can show them that the right isn’t celebrating his death maybe they can share their experiences with people outside of our small community and start healing the divide….bigger picture again…

It turned into a social media blood bath. Both sides so angry and mean to each other. I was shocked, angry, embarrassed, and soooo fucking sad. I cried all day yesterday. I had to not even go near the event stuff because I just couldn’t. I made sure the local PD would be there and the mayor made a very public statement in support of a peaceful gathering in the name of kindness not hate.

Everyone was so busy screaming at each other and saying how horrible the other side was it made me sick. But more importantly they didn’t see the fact that they were both doing the exact same thing that they were pointing fingers and screaming about

It is exhausting me to see so much hate and so little empathy and compassion

We have more in common (minus basic human rights views if you agree with trump regime) than we what separates us and we could do so much if we came together

Half his regime is malice and the ones just being complicit are in this category which is just as dangerous

The media on both sides is lying to us and putting us all against each other

This is what they want and so many are falling for it! I want it to stop. My heart and soul can’t handle it!

This, we need to get away from mainstream media

I just want to be the change…I want to show good things, be a good example and leave people feeling love and kindness…and honestly I’m so heartbroken. The peace vigil is still happening, but I’m so sad at the initial responses and cruelty.
#compassion #empathy #unity #community #bekindtoeachother

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BlindGardener

Point of order: Hate solves the problem of ‘I am bored but don’t have the energy to do anything’. It’s why people doom scroll or check the news.

Hate feels *good*, and I say this as someone who partakes in my fair share of outrage, mostly at Trump and other divisive republican figures.

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GratuaCuun

Also, you're talking as if the right doesn't *support* what Trump is doing???

anosebyanyothername

I mean.......hate has solved a HUGE amount of problems. Not necessarily in a way that we would all agree with admittedly but nevertheless.

And hating is a real catalyst for change. "I hate my job" I hate the way they treat me" " I hate that they want to cut down the old oak tree" and so on.

ALL emotions can be tiring. As someone said in here once, or perhaps it was a meme, really FEELING is exhausting but a small price to pay for being truly alive

I mean, one side wants to obliterate the other - denying multiple minorities the right to even *exist* - bit of a, hm, *challenge* to 'come together' with that

Freyja33

Someone like Charlie Kirk who wishes violence on innocent people and spends most of his life spreading fascist propaganda encouraging genocide is in no way morally equivalent to someone from a group targeted for death by violent genocidal fascists like Charlie kirk who hates genocidal fascists and wants to see those genocidal fascists dead for being genocidal fascists. If you think those are morally equivalent then you think being trans and angry about transphobia is just as bad as being a nazi.

All hatred is not made equal, some hatred is based on disgust for innocent people who did nothing to harm anyone, some hatred is based on caring enough about being mistreated to hate the people doing the mistreatment

glovelyday

The downvoters are truly failed human beings.

I feel like giving up

You’re preaching to the wrong target and asking people who’ve spent the last ten years getting repeatedly assaulted to forgive their assaulters even while those assaulters openly gear up for a more intensive assault that’s likely to kill even more.

If you want to preach against hate, go to X or truth social and preach at the people who are, quite literally, killing us. Or go to a ‘neutral’ place like Facebook. Don’t preach to the people who are about to be victims and know it.

I’m not asking anyone to forgive anyone. I’m asking to lay stop furthering the hate on both sides

But it doesn’t matter anymore. My soul can’t take the heaviness of the world and the last few days have shown me there is no point in trying to be a good person to anyone in the hope of healing anything. I’m giving up on everything

Look, don’t commit suicide, but yes give up on this pointless crusade of asking victims to stop hating the perpetrators.

The problem is both sides are not the same. You’re asking victims not to defend themselves. Their anger and hate is part of how they defend their psyche from people trumpeting at them that their lives are less than worthless. It’s how they protect their sense of self worth from the indignities that they suffer.

WellThatsOriginal

The longer they keep us divided, the longer they control us.

Sure, but killing the other side so we’re not divided anymore is difficult.

Exactly

If only we could reach a *middle ground* with the fucking nazis

You aren't going to lead the way to middle ground. That's for sure.

You mean I won't be crowned king of the Neutrals?

I find it hard to have a conversation with someone that uses memes and gifs in every response.

Alrighty then

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