Lessons learned

Apr 28, 2021 10:58 PM

For a bit of background, I'm the youngest person in my department and have less experience and skills than anyone in my team. I've only been in the industry for a year and have been working for the company for less than that. Today, I hosted a meeting that I was woefully unprepared for and I misunderstood the meeting topic. Individuals in the meeting included analysts, managers, and senior managers. It was 30 minutes but felt like an eternity because I was fumbling around trying to find materials and didn't have the data prepared ahead of time. My manager ended the meeting early before I could continue making a fool of myself and apologized to everyone on the call. After my performance, he told me to stay on and let him know when everyone left. I expected to get chewed out worse than a starving person eating a rack of ribs. He told me that what I did during the meeting can't happen again but let me know that he is not angry or upset. He stressed that if the same thing were to happen in front of a more senior audience, there would be drastic repercussions. He shared that everyone has been in my place at one point and how he's made far worse mistakes in his career. Following this, we spent the next three hours discussing how I can improve and what to do for next time. He then set up a meeting at the end of day with the same individuals to represent our data in an organized fashion. The meeting went extraordinarily well and everyone on the call was pleased with the outcome. He's allotted more time tomorrow to continue helping me. After a rollercoaster of emotions, I couldn't ask for a better manager and I've taken this as a learning opportunity to reach out for help when needed.

TL:DR

Young person (me) unprepared to host meeting botches it and manager wants to talk after. Manager spends hours explaining how I can improve and sets up another meeting with the same people to represent data. The meeting goes much better than the first and everyone is pleased.

EDIT:

I can't thank y'all enough for all the support, advice, feedback, criticism, and praise I've received from all of you. I know it's still early in my career and these things happen but what's important is that I grow from it. I 100% echo the support and praise for my manager, no, leader as so many of you have stated and I strongly agree. I am fortunate to work where I am, with some of the best people I've ever had the pleasure to meet. I am truly blessed.

Also, I saw a good bit of people sharing their own stories about managers and their ability to build up or tear down employees. I believe in y'all and if you ever want to talk about your experience or anything at all, I'm just a message away!

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Dude I remember that feeling when I worked for my first leader and not just another boss. Cherish them. They will guide you.

4 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Manager shouldn't leave you without cover in a meeting like that. That's on him too and he is trying to improve himself.

4 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

Rare to find managers like this

4 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

You dont have a manager, you have a leader there. Thays hard to come by these days.

4 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

That’s a great leader. That’s what a leader/manager SHOULD do. Good on you for recognizing that.

4 years ago | Likes 13 Dislikes 0

Happy it went well. Sounds like you have a good manager that actually cares. You deserve respect for accepting help.

4 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Unpopular opinion I guess, but I feel like your boss should have been helping you prepare for the meeting before you face-planted.

4 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 0

Looks like you have a great job. Hold on to that shit while you can.

4 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Let’s go; we love to see the homies grow and succeed around here

4 years ago | Likes 96 Dislikes 0

And props for taking it well and growing @op!

4 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

Thank y'all so much!

4 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

You better know your managers favorite brand coffee or something my friend. You’re super lucky to work under someone like that

4 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

In a few years when one of your subordinates flops, remember this.

4 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

So much this. I’ll spend all the time ixsn to train ip someone who earnestly wants to do well. They are rare gems that just needs a little

4 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Polish. People that have skills but don’t put in effort are turds that will never shine as bright as hard workers.

4 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Yeah you definitely want to make sure your loli anime girl face filter is off before you join the zoom meeting.

4 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Most large corporations have it backwards but your manager should be your support and advocate in the company, not your warden

4 years ago | Likes 232 Dislikes 1

That's how it's always been for me. Except for one awful manager who was an external hire and eventually got canned for being an asshole.

4 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

That’s for when a manager knows wtf you do and how to do it. I once worked for a large “seamless” org. (1 of ?)

4 years ago | Likes 15 Dislikes 0

The mgrs/directors hadn’t a clue what my job entailed. Even tho I came up with a strategy to save $3MM/yr, ‘twas a struggle staying on top

4 years ago | Likes 13 Dislikes 0

You have a great manager. Good on you for following through and taking their advice.

4 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

KUDOS you have a real Manager. "Take the tools I have, and form them to the tools I want" Well done that you could take criticism.

4 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I love bosses that actually give a fuck about their employees.

4 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

And THAT IS HOW to be a manager!

4 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

That's legit wholesome dude

4 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

Accept the sage! That is a good manager that sees your potential...

4 years ago | Likes 16 Dislikes 0

bosses like this deserve everything you can offer them, dedication, loyalty, effort and focus. him doing his job correctly raises everyone

4 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

It's impossible to hone skills you've never used. Your manager clearly knows this and sees potential in you. Grow!

4 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Oh shit. That's a platinum tier boss.

4 years ago | Likes 291 Dislikes 1

Not quite. Platinum tier boss would have made sure OP was better prepared in the first place

4 years ago | Likes 44 Dislikes 3

I heard Chants in Latin playing in the background

4 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

How many hitpoints?

4 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

5¹⁰

4 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Yes!!!! And it seemed you took the opportunity to learn. Good job.

4 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Thank you!

4 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

That's a hell of a great manager. And good on you for taking the feedback constructively!

4 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

3 hours? I mean that's nice but like 3. Hours. Is a long time

4 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

meetings that could have been an email

4 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

He spent 3 hours to help me after the failed meeting. Sorry if that was unclear in my post! He is an awesome manager ?

4 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

You're fortunate to have an actual MANAGER; many with that title have zero clue how to manage their employees.

4 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

2) Additionally, sometimes, the best-learned lessons are those that were hardest-learned. Good luck in your career going forward.

4 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

As a mgr, that is a large part of the job. I have a young assistant who can be really good but who I think has low esteem bcus of family 1/

4 years ago | Likes 36 Dislikes 0

Her work is good and we’re working on building that esteem through positive reinforcement and training. A good mgr develops their ppl 2/2

4 years ago | Likes 26 Dislikes 0

Nice. As someone who's self confidence and self esteem are somwhere near the earths core hearing stories like this allways brightens my day.

4 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

You are an amazing boss. I have bad anxiety and my soon to be ex-boss just cuts me downeven though everyone else has does but praise for me

4 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Just wondering, but who gives a complex presentation for company execs to the most junior member of the team?

4 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 0

It's not as complex as it seems. I misunderstood the topic which lead to the unpreparedness on my end. My takeaway is to ask questions 1/2

4 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Before I dig myself in a hole, continuously. I'm thankful my manager pulled the plug when he did or I'd be 6ft under now, figuratively. 2/2

4 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

I agree with this point. The manager should have set up check ins to ensure the presentation was on track. Or create milestones.

4 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Exactly. When I give a major presentation, I always run it past my manager. Even though I'm a senior employee. You never know what /1

4 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

discussions are going on at higher levels, and how more contentious items are being positioned. You need to align on what you're saying. /2

4 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I recently got hired on to a small company. CEOs office is across the hall from mine. Hes a great guy

4 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

What does he do that makes him great? I ask because I'm a CEO and want to make my team feel that I'm approachable.

4 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Well he's friendly with everyone. Its a very small company. He's an old white boomer (a surprisingly liberal one) who will be laughing it1/?

4 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

it up with younger employees. One of his employees brings her 5yo in in the afternoons. He acts like an uncle/grandpa around her. 2/3

4 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Just a lot of good vibes. Then again, I'm fairly easy to manipulate by charismatic people. 3/3

4 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Lots of boomers are liberal. My parents are. They vote like 55% right-wing, but that leaves a *lot* of them on the left. It's a mistake /1

4 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0