TheAxeNinja
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Yep. That is all. It's okay to not be okay and no response is still a response. Do not let someone treat you like this no matter what! Know you are loved and valued and I have your back.
ThatRaccoonGuy
I feel it stranger. I got left on 'read' this mother's day, I've given up on trying to reconcile anything. She wants to die a stranger.
CrestoftheStars
THIS.
dormantmayonnaise
Ayup! My mother specifically texted me the day before mother’s day to tell me it’s been so long since we’ve talked (yeah, on purpose) so that I “wouldn’t forget.” Then didn’t answer my call or respond to messages until today.
TheAxeNinja
I didn't even send a message for mother's Day. I'm no contact with her as she refuses to accept any accountability for her actions. It breaks my heart but I'm protecting my family
Denare
I almost waxed nostalgically and did an info dump of when it happened to me. Instead I'll just say that sometimes wordlessly forgiving someone that wronged you is not for them, it's so that you can move on from it and let it bother you slightly less every day.
Booearth
You don't have to forgive a single thing, but you do have to realize what that person did was wrong and work on healing what they did to you. Forgiveness isn't needed to heal, you can still say "What you've done is unforgivable, but I'm moving on and healing."
Denare
That felt like what it was. It felt like sort of a ... vestigial form of forgiveness, I suppose. In that they were not sorry for doing it, and I accept that, and I'm no longer tolerating it, and moving on with my life. Which is about as close to any sort of forgiveness I'll get out of the situation.
TheAxeNinja
Does silent forgiveness imply you never tell them and just remain no contact?
Denare
Yep. I had to. I wholesale dropped any and all contact, and moved on with my life, knowing further contact will just give me the same song and dance I've heard before. It was tough, but it's sometimes necessary.