Kitt5yk
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I drove 1000 miles to see you in your filthy apartment. All I wanted was to meet you, to be your friend, and to make a painting with you. You made me very uncomfortable. You recorded me on security cameras at all times. You screamed in my face because I was crying when I felt bad for ruining our evening.
Being screamed at is very traumatic for me, especially when a grown man is screaming at me. This activated my fight or flight (I always fight), and caused me to act erratically out of fear for my safety
You screaming over me, while I was crying, upset, and trying to explain things to you, I felt like my mouth was glued shut, and I had to yell to be heard. You said "look at your face in the mirror, you're horrifying" and I refused because I could see the same face reflected on yours.
UnitConversionBot
1000 miles ≈ 1600 kilometres or 2 proclaimer walks
ongabonga
Great work. And virtual hug
Kitt5yk
Thank you! 🫂
onetiredchef
You are very good at capturing the rage in the eyes
Kitt5yk
Thank you!
dreikommavierzehn
wow that sucks, I'm sorry you had this happen. I hate screaming as well, it is the single most triggering interaction for me (escalating me from 0 to 100 instantly). I have made it a point to walk away from situations like this and clearly communicate that if it happens again, it would be our last conversation.
Kitt5yk
Thank you. It was honestly horrifying. Their behavior and mine. But yes, yelling/screaming is so horribly triggering. I become a monster because I am so afraid. The worst is when you're trying to walk away, and that person is following you, escalating things, further adding to the "cornered animal" feeling
dreikommavierzehn
Yes, that is true. Being cornered is when it feels like I'm losing control and like there's a potential for explosive violence. That's the actual reason why I walk away from this and don't risk anything that might put me in such a situation