TallulahBumfluff
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I honestly "just can't even" anymore.
Why is this so difficult?
Jan 2, 2025 8:16 PM
TallulahBumfluff
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I honestly "just can't even" anymore.
Why is this so difficult?
BlindMeach
Having to contemplate starting to date at some point, and I concur with your ‘can’t even’ comment!
If life has taught me anything, it’s that love will hit you hard when you least expect it. It might hit you with a cod, but it will land a mighty blow. Don’t stop looking, just stop searching x
Letstrythisonemotime
So you're evening plans were canceled? Lock the door, lights off, VPN engage,
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TallulahBumfluff
deafchef52
Duck pic, for your viewing pleasure
TallulahBumfluff
Credit: SeDUCKtive. Fucking love this channel.
deafchef52
YES! Always quality material!
snowdragondaddy
Found my partner of 17 years online. Hit or miss though. Lots of ghosting, catfishing but eventually found her.
DiscendoDiscimus
Next! Don't give up.
TallulahBumfluff
Really am trying but my last serious one was 11 years ago...
ChrisWsrn
My bumble swipe states are pretty sad. For the month of July I was presented 3615 women of which I swiped yes 56.016% of the time. I was presented to women 1827 times (This is what a premium subscription increases). Only 0.975% of women I was presented to swiped yes on me... I knew it was bad for men on dating sites but less than 1% is depressing...
TallulahBumfluff
I won't go into the stats of my swipe to convo to date ratio.
ChrisWsrn
I have sisters. For them using dating apps is like trying to find clean water in a swamp. For me the apps are like trying to find clean water in a desert.
RuffleMyFluffles
Whoa there, why is it not a time to get a Cat. It's always time to get a Cat, just even be plural and be Cats.
TallulahBumfluff
No need to show off, Mr Fancy Pants and your two gorgeous voids!
RuffleMyFluffles
Not sure how I typoed the 2nd part that badly, meant to say "could even be plural and get two Cats"... Missing out, having floofs is glorious. Esp bonded pairs that will cuddle each other and possibly you.The only concern would be to have enough emergency savings or pet insurance for their medical bills.
Sebastopol140
Online dating has always been crap... but when you don't have anyone around you that can introduce yout to someone, or don't want to go hang out in "places"... well it's all we have.
bigdix69420
I met my now wife on POF. The 2 women I dated prior from POF were fucking crazy tho. One I needed a restraining order against and thr other lol (I can't make this up) was super abusive verbally and claimed they would attempt suicide if we broke up....but 3rd time was the charm!!!. ( this isn't helping my argument)
TallulahBumfluff
So much this.
Mehlsack
Sorry to hear that OP. Don't give up, 2025 has still a lot to offer :) Have you tried IRL dating instead of online dating?
TallulahBumfluff
I don't meet anyone IRL naturally anymore, and I'm not really wanting to pay to do speed dating or whatever...
Drakesfear
Don't let idiots cloud your vision. It may be tough, but plod through and you'll find the one for you eventually
boardfuniguess
I've just completely given up on that. At this point I'm going to need some lady to kick my front door down and say you're mine now lol
TallulahBumfluff
That could be the premise of a romcom or a horror movie......... How do you like your chances?
boardfuniguess
I'm good either way. If it's the romcom I won't be alone but if it's the horror I won't have to worry about it anymore haha
feren
Wishing you good luck in finding companionship in 2025, @OP.
aworkoffiction
Did you still go out by yourself and have a nice time?
spaceindian
hope it gets better for you
TallulahBumfluff
I'd say "it can't get worse" but it's already started on Jan 2nd, so...........
TinyOctopus
Tiny octopus thinks you shouldn't give up. At least you're getting asked out. Share your secret with the rest of us, hah.
80thousand85
My secret is to talk about the various lego sets i own. So far, it has served to weed out those who are cool and those who ain't
Heavenissize17socks
80thousand85
Well my best, most awesome lego set is the Simpson's house that i decorate for different holidays (Christmas is still up at the moment but it's time to take it down). At some point, when i stop procrastinating, I'll post pictures of it. So probably never
TallulahBumfluff
I'm going out on a limb here but.... I'm female. I'm told this makes it easier. I am really picky though and won't date for the sake of dating, I don't want to waste anyone's time and I need a connection. So even exchanging numbers is huge for me let alone agreeing to a date.
TinyOctopus
Oh yeah. Tiny octopus is a he/him cis Asian dude and just started looking. So far it's a lot of obvious catfish and people from Nairobi, who he assumes are trying to tell him about a lost fortune.
Best of luck out there. Chessie says you can do it. If you want. :D
TallulahBumfluff
TIL I learned TinyOctopus is Asian! I had a picture of you in my head sometimes when reading posts and now I am all confused haha. Also Chessie pics are more than welcome in this trying time.
P.S. I am a descendant of BigOctopus and have been contacted by a company called Fish de le Cat... You are the first beneficiary! xxx
TinyOctopus
PointyHairedJedi
A cat is not so bad.
TallulahBumfluff
My heart belongs to Sam now.
PointyHairedJedi
He's majestic, and worse, he knows it.
TallulahBumfluff
I believe it!
SoftKleenex
I was once hopeful like you with online dating, I currently use zero apps and am happy no longer being in the rat race
TallulahBumfluff
I keep saying I'll stop but also have no other way of meeting someone rn.
SoftKleenex
That's basically what my mindset was, I had to meet someone, but once I learned to be happy being by myself, it's kind of liberating no longer needing to rely on finding someone to "fill the void" since you figured out how to fill it yourself. But everybody's needs are different. Best of luck
TallulahBumfluff
I get that. And I've enjoyed being single but there are aspects that you can't fill solo. Not even just the bedroom stuff, but doing activities and trips away with someone is something you can't replicate solo.
SoftKleenex
That's true, I'm not a fan of eating out alone or going to theaters alone. Take breaks from the dating app once in a while. Don't burn yourself out going date after date like you're job hunting
TallulahBumfluff
I really don't burn myself out though! I think I met 7 or 8 in the last year!
MagmaCarta
Ooh, had that happen to me once. She texted me before our date saying that she forgot that she had promised her friends she would be Designated Driver for them that night.
I was literally on my way to go pick her up, after I had stopped to pick up flowers for her.
Went home, ordered pizza. Mom appreciated the surprise flowers the next day though.
TallulahBumfluff
That really sucks! You got pizza and your mom got flowers though, total win - pizza is always good plus you got brownie points with your mom!
MagmaCarta
The funniest part (well... funny now, anyway) was she was friends with my cousin. That's how we met.
He was at the same bar that night. He said later she was drinking and clearly not the DD but came over and said to him "I think Magma might be mad at me, I don't know."
JiffyGee
I gave up on dating period. Why? I’m just a fat, old, ugly cat lady. I’ll die alone.
Potatoespotatoespotatoespotatoespotaosoupforeveryone1
Sometimes getting stood up is the best thing that can happen. Saves you the effort of learning that they're crappy.
TallulahBumfluff
I do like it when the trash takes itself out, ngl! But maybe they could look to do it earlier.
WaterUnderTheRocketAppliances
Well, could have gone worse. At least you still have the same number of internal organs.
Sorrontis
Sorry, I'm all out of Duck Pics. Give me a sec.
TallulahBumfluff
Sorry someone downvoted you, but I got the joke, thanks!!! (For reference to others: my bio says send duck pics!)
Sorrontis
here's some love my friend, dating is rough.
Sorrontis
Here you go: /a/Yly5Uap
TallulahBumfluff
Dawwwwwwwwwwwww look at their widdle faces! (Also slightly jealous they seem to have more romance than me haha)
Sorrontis
Have you tried putting on very pretty feathers and dancing for the potential mates?
evolution4407
I have found online dating to be a huge waste of time. Not saying you shouldn't do it, but just saying don't let that be your only option. Try to meet women in person too. Join meetup groups, spend time hanging out at your local bar or cafe, do charity work, take classes, et. al.
TallulahBumfluff
I'm trying to meet men.... But also I did charity work and it was the most unsociable place I've worked! The only other classes or groups in my area are all in the middle of the day aimed at elderly/special needs, and I'm at work anyway!
evolution4407
Oops, sorry. Still advice to meet people in real life applies even if you're trying to meet men. Also, I'm sorry you had a bad experience with the charity you worked for. They're not all like that. I've made friends volunteering for CCFA and a buddy of mine actually met his wife volunteering for Heifer International. Choose charities, classes, or meetup groups in which you can meet men in your age range.
TallulahBumfluff
In all honesty, i was volunteering at charities to do good in the community and not to use it as a real life app. Kind of creepy tbh that it is being suggested as a way to date.
evolution4407
You do realise that you're allowed to do good in the community and make friends at the same time, right?
evolution4407
My friend and his wife saved lives by raising livestock and farming vegetables at Heifer International for families who don't have the means to feed themselves. They found each other in the process, fell in love, got married, and now they have a beautiful baby daughter. How sad that you think that's creepy. Besides, charities were just one of several examples I suggested of places to meet people in real life. But anyway, do whatever you like.
Hotsauceman
Please don’t give up @OP. It took me years on OkCupid, Match, Tinder, bumble, CoffeeMeetsBagel, POF, and Baduu. Lots of coffee dates and failures. It took my wife less than 6 months to find me. I stopped at one point to work on my physical health and came back.
MightyUrto
Facebook dating is a thing.....
TallulahBumfluff
I have never heard of this, but it sounds like hell on earth.
paullyboy1999
At least it's a free option to navigate the shit show. I have almost contemplated creating a Facebook account for dating and marketplace... but its Facebook. Easier to pay full price and die alone
Lyconous
I met my ex through it, they use mutual friends as a match metric. We're still good friends
ChrisWsrn
It is one of the better apps right now.
imonsei
It's the lesser of all the evils you mentioned so far
Hotsauceman
It can work. A buddy in mine went on a few dates with a girl on there
MightyUrto
My 26 year old son found his current GF through it. She's nice and is a career professional, YMMV ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
TallulahBumfluff
FB in general is horrible. I have it with a semi fake name, no pic, and use it for marketplace. Probably wouldn't be allowed on the dating bit anyway with my lack of profile!